How do I find my Soulmate? … (02/25/12)
I’ll now give you a few of my personal thoughts on the whole “Soulmate” theme. These thoughts are not meant to represent “the Truth”, as I do not know what your particular Path to Peace offers or requires, AND YET these are Truths for my life — a life that was also often filled with seeking for a Soulmate of my own.
So, with that preface out of the way, here we go …
1) If you by “Soulmate” mean one and only one particular individual that is your own particular “perfect partner”, I think you are going to have a verrrrrry hard time finding such a person — primarily because he simply doesn’t exist. And I’m not saying there aren’t great guys out there — guys who would Love you and Care for you unconditionally — there are literally millions of such guys capable of doing so. No, the issue first & foremost is one of “spiritual physics”: that what you beam out is what comes back. Most folks think this means that they can attract a “Soulmate” into their lives if they very intensely beam out a clear desire for the same. Of course, as millions upon millions of people are discovering, this simply does not work. And the reason why it doesn’t work is pretty simple: the Universe “hears” not our desires or our thoughts or our words, as much as it “feels” our intentions. If we beam out “I want Love”, the Universe “hears” something like “I am lacking Love” — so it sends relationships to us that inevitably lack Love! It also makes complete sense that — because “like does indeed attract like” — when we beam out “I want to be Loved”, we do not attract people who want to Love us, but rather those, like us, who want to be Loved themselves! As such, our self-centered intentions, however well-intended and “right” and “fair” they might be, are the very things that keep us from attaining the very Love we so desire.
Solution to this particular quandry: wake up each morning thankful to be alive at all, and dedicate that one day to serving as many others as possible, as radically as possible. Set aside your desires for a “better life” or “more Love” or a “Soulmate”, and instead go forth with the lone goal of bringing others as much Joy & Peace as you can that day. Thereafter, go to bed that night with a smile on your face and more gratitude on your lips. Pray to whomever you pray to and thank Him/Her/It for the day, and express an intention to continue to serve & Love & Care if given another chance tomorrow … Repeat this simple process every day, and immediately enter into a life that is literally overflowing with deep-seated Happiness and lasting Calm.
2) Another approach I have used (concurrently with #1) is simply pause long enough to truly SEE those around me – to realize that it is my ego’s labeling of only the very few as “good enough” or “attractive enough” or “Loving enough” (to be my potential “Life Partner” or “Soulmate”) that keeps me mired in waves of meaninglessness and sadness and frustration. Solution: choose to WAKE UP & SEE that everyone around us is our Soulmate in that moment — that everyone around us is our Life Partner for that fleeting glimpse of eternity we call “Now”. And then, if we ACT ACCORDINGLY, there is nothing more for which to yearn; there is nothing “better” or more Loving” to attain … We cease looking for Love in those moments — because we become LOVE instead!
I know this all sounds so trite, and it will continue to seem hollow and “foofy” until you go out and actually put it into practice — until you actually choose to live this way.
It isn’t necessary to do so, of course, and yet it really does work. I have tried thousands of other methods to attain “real Love” and “true Happiness” in my life, and this is the only way I have found that truly functions.
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