What LOVE really means … (12/09/13)

Though it’s a good start, LOVE is more than merely walking with your enemy side by side; it’s more than merely refusing to lash out in fear or anger — more than merely turning the other cheek … No, to be truly transformative of self & others, LOVE goes the extra mile — seeing the […]

finding real LOVE … (05/28/13)

What LOVE Is … LOVE is not a grasping for what we wish, nor is it a clinging to that which we already possess. LOVE knows nothing of trust or hope or promises or demands … No, real LOVE is about Caring FOR others without caring at all about how they care for you (or […]

Loosening the Lies of LOVE … Introduction (12/31/12)

(“Revealing the Ruses of Romance”) From birth to death, we humans are repeatedly inundated with compelling biological drives & enormous cultural pressures — many of which persuade us to find “true love” or find a “healthy partner” or even find our “Soulmate” … Indeed, there is so much attention being paid to attaining love and […]

Loosening the Lies of LOVE … Lie #01 (12/30/12)

Lie #01: We have been told that, “Love is blind” … … and yet in Truth: LOVE is our only real lucidity. Yes, I know that “love at first sight” and “falling head over heels” are actually flashes of lust, and as such have nothing whatsoever to do with real Love. And yet even then, […]

Loosening the Lies of LOVE … Lie #02 (12/29/12)

Lie #02: We have been told that, “Love is a sign of weakness”&/or that, “Love makes the lover weak”… … and yet in Truth: LOVE is our only real Strength. For it is in defending ourselves that we calcify our isolation, and it is in pushing others away from us that we grow weary. Pure […]

Loosening the Lies of LOVE … Lie #03 (12/28/12)

Lie #03: We have been told that, “Love requires luck”; that finding Love depends upon external circumstances & happenstances in our lives that are essentially beyond our control or influence … … and yet in Truth: LOVE simply IS. LOVE is a power that is always present — & a choice that is allWays available […]

Loosening the Lies of LOVE … Lie #04 (12/27/12)

Lie #04: We have been told that, “Love is who you can see yourself with for the rest of your life” &/or that, “Love is – for the rest of your life – who you cannot see yourself without” … … and yet in Truth: LOVE is who you See while you are Loving. LOVE […]

Loosening the Lies of LOVE … Lie #05 (12/26/12)

Lie #05: We have been told that, “You’ve got to fight for Love”, and that, once won, Love must be defended at all costs … … and yet in Truth: LOVE is Freedom itself, and LOVE is the letting go. LOVE is not “proven” by jealousy or evidenced by need or clinging. Indeed, LOVE is […]

Loosening the Lies of LOVE … Lie #06 (12/25/12)

Lie #06: We have been told that, “Love hurts when you give too much”… … and yet in Truth: LOVE is Giving everything; and in Giving everything, LOVE makes LOVE the Healing. In fact, it is the greatest of ironies that LOVE can only be received fully while being given completely, and that we can […]

Loosening the Lies of LOVE … Lie #07 (12/24/12)

Lie #07: We have been told that, “Love must be manifested to be had”; that we must manipulate it, co-create it, visualize it, seduce it &/or tease it into being … … and yet in Truth: LOVE is only to be accepted; never engendered or demanded. LOVE is to be courageously given where it is […]

Loosening the Lies of LOVE … Lie #08 (12/23/12)

Lie #08: We have been told that, “Love is fated” and that, “Our Love is our destiny”; that we will receive what is meant for us, no matter what is done or not attempted … … and yet in Truth: LOVE is always chosen – and LOVE is allWays a choice. Indeed, unless our LOVE […]