"The Soul System"
This image came to me in 2005 while I was wrapping up a two-year "experiment with Truth" (see the
About page for more on this phase of my life). After distilling dozens of moral
ideals down to the
9 Noble Virtues, I attempted to place these "ultimate truths" into a hierarchy. And yet, no matter how I re-arranged them, it never felt right placing one of
them "above" or "below" another. They all seemed to be equally valuable to the human search for true Happiness. It didn't take long for me to abandon my linear approach and simply
place them around the perimeter a circle, making each equally important and all of them separate-yet-interconnected portions of the human conscience. From this initial diagram
blossomed this (i)am logo - a symbolic representation of the dynamic life of each and every conscious human being within his/her Universe. Though all nine circuits are actually
seamless facets of a borderless whole, they are separated here to aid your understanding of how that whole functions.
As I began to apply the symbol's dynamics to my own life, its deeper meanings steadily revealed themselves. The nine circuits represent every facet of human life in any given
moment, from the farthest reaches of the
Universe (level 9), to the deepest internal mysteries
of both
consciousness (level 2) and the
Soul (level 1). In between, this mandala's layers illuminate how we function as human beings.
It evidences the internal interplay between the self-centered
ego-mind (level 4) & the selfless
conscience (level 3). It also illustrates the constant interconnection that exists (the
synchronicity of level 7) between the physical
body (6) and its immediate surroundings (the
world of level 8).
Levels 1-4 reflect internal interactions within your life - how you relate to yourself, while levels 6-9 evidence your life's external relationships - how you relate to your
environment. The (i)am material focuses primarily on the circuit where these two dynamics meet: the human
character of level 5. This is the realm of choice, where all conscious
beings experience either a sense of harmony or dis-ease based on the type of actions and thoughts they actualize in any particular moment. In essence, every time we make a
self-centered choice (in level 5), the "fog" of the ego-mind (level 4) gets denser. We are focused in these moments on our own benefit, often at the expense of others, and feel
more separate from the Universe as a result. Because the only lasting experience of bliss comes from acting as an agent of the Whole, these selfish choices ultimately bring us a
heightened sense of dis-ease and suffering. Conversely, every time we make a selfless, compassionate choice for the benefit of another, that same "fog" dissipates. We feel the innate
Oneness with our surroundings more intensely and experience a deeper sense of Contentment as a result.
Ideally, your everyday choices harmonize the external guidance received from your surroundings with the selfless yearnings of your internal conscience. We are all constantly
presented with opportunities to either enhance others' joy or mitigate their suffering. It is in the moments when we courageously act with compassion for the betterment of others
that the perfect harmony of all nine of the logo's layers is felt, and
Inner Peace is fully known.
Inner peace is commonly defined as "a mental condition marked by a freedom from disquieting thoughts*" ... Some equate it to living in harmony with our surroundings, while others feel that it reflects the times when we have little or no negative stress (a.k.a. fear) in our lives. Regardless of your personal definition thereof, inner peace is hardly a "norm" in these turbulent times. Nations are at war, members of different religions are condemning each other, companies are competing viciously for profits, we are seemingly surrounded by people who annoy or criticize us, and even our own minds are constantly temtping us to fulfill selfish desires and/or avoid self-centered worries ...
And yet, it has been my personal experience over the last five+ years that there is another way to Be; that even though this discordance is "normal" in our everyday lives, it is anything but natural. And this is the ultimate purpose of this website: to provide you with tools you can use to realign your life with a more peace-full, natural state of Being. Indeed, there seem to be no other words that so perfectly identify the ultimate intention of this website: to bring you "Inner Peace" - to bring you back into a state of internal calm; a harmonious state of awareness that will allow you to re-member your true nature as a selflessly compassionate being.
And the term "re-member" is truly key to comprehending what is meant here, as it is not enough to simply intellectually "understand" the (i)am material. The "Inner Peace" to which I refer does not come from logical thought or emotional prayer or intense visualization (though these are beneficial practices on the path towards Inner Peace). Rather, in my personal experience, true Inner Peace comes only when one has the courage to actually apply these principles to everyday life with acts of selfless service and/or radical kindness ... In each moment of life that we choose to practice selfless kindness, we create a powerful force for Peace in the world, and thereby experience a deep-seated Inner Peace ourselves.
"There is no way to Peace... Peace is the Way." ~ M. Gandhi
*Webster's 3rd New International Unabridged Dictionary (1986)
The choices that lead to Inner Peace.
Deep down, every one of us is curious about what makes our actions "right" or "wrong." In every moment of our lives, we have the opportunity to choose how we are going to act: to either succumb to self-centered temptations (a.k.a. "sins") or transcend those fear-based desires by caring for others selflessly ... I do not possess any specific advice that is guaranteed to bring you true Happiness. And yet, after studying (and at times emulating) the lives of quite a few "Masters", it seems clear to me that there are nine major personality traits that, without exception, all "Enlightened Beings" embody and all "Right Actions" emit.
These nine "Noble Virtues" combine to provide each of us with our moral compass -- or conscience. They are the nine principles that enliven our Souls; the nine values that together combine to generate the Ultimate Virtue many of us know as "Love." They underlie any choice we make that is "perfect" or "righteous" or "good" and serve as guideposts to help us identify (and hopefully choose) actions & thoughts that are in harmony with our own unique Life-Missions ...
The following is a short summary of these Virtues:
Acceptance is experienced purely in those moments when you choose to extend unconditional forgiveness to those who have harmed you the most intensely (including life itself when it seems to treat you "unfairly" or bring you "unfair" amounts pain) ... To the degree that this Virtue is not actualized, its opposing sin manifests itself in the form of condemnation (a.k.a. judgement, analysis or criticsim).
Patience is experienced purely in those moments when we do not wait for a "better moment" or a "perfect opportunity" to act, but rather choose to See the perfect opportunities already given to us in every moment. We do so by choosing to engage those opportunities humbly & courageously ... To the degree that this Virtue is not actualized, its opposing sin manifests itself in the form of attachment (a.k.a frustration).
Generosity is experienced purely in those moments when we give cheerfully and selflessly to those deemed to be "least deserving" ... To the degree that this Virtue is not actualized, its opposing sin manifests itself in the form of greed (e.g. selfishness or caution).
Gratitude is experienced purely in those moments when life's pains & difficulties are faced while simultaneously choosing to be thank-full for those "obstacles"; seeing them as challenges that enable life to become Meaning-full ... To the degree that this Virtue is not actualized, its opposing sin manifests itself in the form of envy.
Compassion is experienced purely in those moments when we are harmed by an "enemy", and yet maintain enough composure to pause and care for his/her person anyway ... To the degree that this Virtue is not actualized, its opposing sin manifests itself in the form of apathy.
Honesty is experienced purely in those moments when we replace politeness with Kindness -- &/or replace the temptation to replace "half-truths" with silence and a smile ... To the degree that this Virtue is not actualized, its opposing sin manifests itself in the form of deception.
Humility is experienced purely in those moments when we have the courage to face everything we "know for certain", set it all aside, and See it all anew "as a Child" ... To the degree that this Virtue is not actualized, its opposing sin manifests itself in the form of pride.
Wonderment is experienced purely in those moments when we choose to see the wondrous in the "normal", find excitement in the "boring" &/or See the glorious perfection within the Soul of everyone we find to be "familiar" ... To the degree that this Virtue is not actualized, its opposing sin manifests itself in the form of familiarity (a.k.a. boredom).
Faith is experienced purely in those moments when we are humbly uncertain as to the effectiveness or "safety" of a particular act of kindness, and yet choose to be kind anyway ... To the degree that this Virtue is not actualized, its opposing sin manifests itself in the form of doubt.
More than few of these statements might make you a bit uncomfortable. After all, how can any of us hope to "be perfect" for even an instant, much less our entire lives? ... Fortunately, it is not necessary to exhibit these traits consistently, nor is it necessary to exhibit them perfectly. They are not "goals" for your attainment, but rather guidelines for your use. You are not required to "be perfect" to attain Inner Peace. Rather, the "closer" you get to exhibiting a particular Noble Virtue perfectly, the more powerful that moment will become and the more Peace you will feel in that moment.
Thus, when you choose to actualize a Virtue with complete selflessness (i.e. in harmony with the definitions given above), you will inevitably experience a lasting deep-seated sense of Contentment. And, obviously, in the moments that you choose not to do so, you will not. The choice is allWays yours to make, and then re-make -- again and again for as long as you remain consciously alive ... To better understand this dynamic, click on any one of the 9 Virtues in the diagram to learn more about what each of them means as well as to obtain a few practical tips for putting them into practice in your everyday living.
Acceptance vs. Condemnation
It is important that we learn to embrace the way everything in the Universe pulses and shifts and evolves -- how everything is continually born, grows, dies and then is reborn again. Indeed, there is nothing to do with this dynamic but accept it. We receive gifts only to have them eventually disappear. We are healthy only to become ill -- only to become whole once more. We "achieve" a goal only to see another challenge rise before our path. Our possessions are gained, are lost or broken, and are then gained anew ... Change is inevitable and always comes in ways unexpected. And when we attach ourselves to certain outcomes that then do not manifest themselves, our hopes are shattered and we experience the sufferings of longing, regret and/or pain.
And yet, though what happens "to us" may be for the most part beyond our "control", our perception of what has happened is always our choice. In every moment of our lives, we can choose between being accepting of what happens to us or judging the same as "bad" or "needing improvement." On one side, we can decide to see Life as a series of blessings and/or opportunties, while on the other we look to "improve" situations that harm us or criticize the people or things inflicting us with harm ... The Universe is an interconnected whole; a singularity of which we are all parts -- a singularity that is continually "striving" to attain a state of perfect Harmony. This flow of "Highest Good", however apparently slow or misguided it may be, is always in constant operation. It is there in every moment of our lives -- both for us to See and for us to Follow. And the closer we get to a state of appreciation for everything that makes up our lives, the closer we get to the experience of deep-seated inner Peace.
"Perfect Acceptance" occurs in those moments when you choose to either extend kindness to those who have harmed you (i.e. actualized forgiveness) or appreciate the "normal" things in your life as the spectacular miracle they are. It is a detached, unconditionally compassionate response to an injustice or moral wrong. It is seeing the adventure within every moment that is "boring." It is merciful restraint from revenge or resentment in response to an infliction of "injustice." It is beig amazed by every experience previously deemed to be "normal." It is the Acceptance of all that IS, while simultaneously dismissing all hopes or fears for whatever should or could be. As such, all adversity is met without complaint. One ceases striving to make life "better" and commences instead with assisting the "flow" of life to become "smoother" (i.e. more harmonious or Peace-full). Perfect Acceptance realizes that there are no "phases" to life - only one Moment (the current one), and it therefore encourages us to act accordingly; living every moment of our lives in humble appreciation -- as if it were both our first and our last moment on Earth...
Peace is not the absence of war, but the absence of the self-centeredness thsat is the root cause of all conflict. Health is not the absence of illness, but rather the absence of the arrogant striving that is the root cause of all dis-ease. Wonderment is not the absence of routine, but rather the absence of the preconceptions that are the root cause of all boredom. Love is not the absence of hatred, but rather the absence of fear that is the root cause of all apathy ... Peace is innate -- Health is innate -- Wonderment is innate -- Love is innate. We must never strive to recapture them. We must merely set our egos aside and let these innate qualities "float to the surface" of our lives. Acceptance is the key to this setting aside...
The re-construction of yourself can be either a magnificent creation of your own conscious design or a strictly happenstance configuration (
click here for some practical tips on how to do so). In essence, you can either choose to be a person who has been molded by what has happened "to you", or a person who has been consciously self-constructed by what you choose to Do with what happens "for you" ... Remember then, it matters not what you choose to do, and it is essential how you choose to do what you choose to do!
The choice is completely yours --
May you choose Peace-fully!
It is important to remember that this Virtue is not a "goal" for your attainment, but rather a guideline for your use ... You are not required to "be perfectly accepting" to attain Peace. And yet, the more perfectly you can effectuate Acceptance in your everyday life, the more powerfully you will bring Peace to others - and the more purely you will then experience deep-seated Peace yourself ...
Some practical How-To's for enhanced Acceptance:
1. "Radical Forgiveness" ... One of the most powerful ways to attain a state of perfect Acceptance is to forgive thse who have harmed (or are still harming) us. Focusing on another's "wrongs" prevents us from investing our own energies in the present moment. Indeed, Acceptance cannot be experienced until you detach from past wounds and actualizes forgiveness for your "perpetrators" by being kind to them. This active caring for our "enemies" is the only way to completely forgive them (and thereby become free of the pain that they have caused us). There is thereafter no more energy wasted on resentment, revenge or any other form of "fighting for justice." One's focus shifts completely from a self-centered worrying over what is "fair", to a selfless desire to relieve others' burdens. Outrage disappears and is replaced by calm. Blame disappears and is replaced by compassion. Envy disappears and is replaced by gratitude. Frustration disappears and is replaced by appreciation. Fear disappears and is replaced by courageous acts of caring. And these harmonious states of being are all brought about simply by choosing to believe in them while acting accordingly ...
Choose to remember that the arrogant people in your life were taught powerlessness in their youth, and are now ready to receive your respect. Remember that the overly aggressive people in your life were taught helplessness in their youth, and are now ready to receive your allegiance. Remember that the malicious people in your life were taught cowardice, and are now ready to receive your courageous compassion. Remember that the judgmental people in your life were taught uncertainty, and are now ready to receive your Acceptance. Remember that the superficial people in your life were taught avoidance, and are now ready to receive your Intimacy. Remember that the evil people in your life were taught fear, and are now ready to receive your Love ...
All beings that evoke judgment or condemnation or criticism or even analysis from you are the very ones in your life most in need of your perfect Acceptance, and they are also the ones from whom that caring will be received most power-fully. It is impossible to experience deep-seated Peace until we choose to actively care for those we fear (noting that annoyance is a mild manifestation of fear, while hatred is an extreme manifestation thereof). And we cannot care for these people until we have chosen to exhibit the courage to come closer to them - to know them as people, and not "villains" ...
With this in mind, choose to forgive the "enemies" in your life, and choose to do so personally. Eye-contact, coupled with a sincere and compassion-laden expression of forgiveness, is a potent way to communicate your perfect Acceptance of another. An anonymous "good deed" on their behalf is another. Phone-calls, letters &/or visualizations that relay forgiveness can also prove effective, though they are much less potent. In general, the more difficult (a.k.a. "uncomfortable") the method used, the more powerful it will be -- and the more Peace it will engender, both for those forgiven as well as for yourself ...
2. "Radical Appreciation" ... To help re-awaken your Soul's innate all-Accepting nature, it is helpful to choose to deeply Appreciate your life's non-threatening objects. To do so, simply sit and witness whatever you happen to notice in a particular moment -- a fly on your window, a flower, the flame of a candle, a tree, etc. Your ego will attempt to see that object as "familiar", "boring" or "normal," and yet choose to gently set these thoughts aside and Realize that the object you are observing is ever-changing, and essentially a completely different object from when you might have last seen it (or anything similar to it). Appreciate it for what it is only as it is in this new moment; not as it was in the past or could be in the future. Once these ego-based thoughts are released, you can be truly Aware of the object in that instant, and can then truly Accept it as it IS. Indeed, to choose to be deeply Aware of anything is to unconditionally Accept (and therefore truly Appreciate) the same ...
Note that your ego will attempt to judge the object, and by judgment I refer not only those thoughts that are negative or critical. A flower is a flower. It is not "beautiful" -- which is an opinion of the ego that is based upon comparing the flower to other "less beautiful" things the ego has witnessed in the past ... All judgments, positive or negative, are merely the ego breathing its arrogant (and essentially fearful) fog onto your Soul's perfect window to Reality. All such labels serve to obscure the accuracy of your perceptions and make it impossible to truly Accept anything you happen to experience. After all, how can you hope to Accept what you perceive if you do not first choose to truly Perceive it as it is! ...
Once this relatively easy practice has been experienced, we can apply it in situations that are more challenging. Interacting with other entities (e.g. working with an object as opposed to looking at it, communicating with another person instead of listening to them, etc.) is a much more difficult arena in which to effectuate perfect Acceptance. And yet, it is equally plausible and equally powerful to do so. The brain is a computer -- a computer currently being continually programmed and re-programmed by your primitive, instinct-based, self-centered ego-mind. And yet, as a computer, your brain can also be re-programmed by your "higher", conscience-based, selfless conscience as well ...
We all have a set of negative prejudices and ignorant convictions related to our views of reality ... When honest with our selves, we can identify at least a few of them immediately. And with these you can commence with your own "re-programming." Have the courage to visualize one of the situations when one or more of your prejudices typically arise. Feel yourself pause long enough to remember that you have a choice as to how you will behave in such moments. You may continue to emotionally react in a judgmental, pain-inducing fashion -- or you may pause and choose a new, more harmonious response. You may release your self-centered hopes that things were somehow other than they are. You might even decide to perfectly Accept the person or the situation or the object only for what it is in that moment. You may even Accept not only that life is as it is in that moment, but also that there is something harmonious that you can do in that situation. Persistently choosing this mental outlook makes each subsequent challenge of Acceptance that much easier to engage, and your Soul's mirror of true Perception that much clearer thereafter ...
3. "Radical Gratitude" ... Thankfulness is one of the most-powerful forms of perfect Acceptance. And this Gratitude can also be extended to include your life's more painful moments. Indeed, every one of your "tragedies" or "crises" is actually a clear mirror into which you may gaze -- to see who you yourself are choosing to become, to realize similar personal transgressions that are calling for your repentance, to recognize the opportunity to selflessly serve that which has been placed directly before you in that very moment. As such, choose to be thank-full for the difficulties that enable you to re-Awaken to your True Self, as well as for the challenges that give you the opportunity to choose compassion for your "enemies." Indeed, there is always the opportunity to focus on the life and the livelihood you already have, and to consciously live it fully -- without struggling to "improve" it, attain goals, fulfill plans or "enforce justice" ...
With this in mind, it might be helpful to take a few moments and write a few short lists. Initially, list all your personal wounds (emotional as well as physical) and the people who have "perpetrated" them upon you. Choose to See each of those "lessons" as an integral step along the path that has brought you to this very moment; to the state of Being that has enabled you to finally choose to now live in Joy anyway ... Next, list all the wounds (emotional as well as physical) that you have "perpetrated" upon others. Choose to forgive yourself for their commission. Be thank-full that you have learned from these mistakes and need never repeat them again ... Finally, make a list of all the blessings that Life has bestowed upon you. Express your gratitude for these gifts, and choose to dedicate your life to extending the same compassion onto others that the Universe continues to shower upon you ...
Remember that there is no joy without sadness, no bliss without pain, no abundance without lack; no harmony without discord; no flowing ease without struggle; no selfless virtue without selfish "sin"; no beauty without the displeasing; and no life without death. This is not a call for you to affirm or manifest more painful encounters in your life, but rather a mandate to perfectly Accept them when they do arise, and thereby use them to emPower the re-emergence of your True Self with your subsequent acts of grateful kindness ...
Patience vs. Frustration
In our fast-paced and relatively hectic society, patience is one of the values that seems most difficult to cultivate. Our lives are filled with long lists of things we "have to do" -- some of them are deemed to be "important", while others we label as "urgent." Of course, life rarely cooperates completely with us as we attempt to accomplish these tasks, and we are often encouraged to simply "be patient" ... We are taught that "patience" requires us to remain calm during unexpected delays, tolerate undesirable situations and/or be polite to "slow" or disrespectful people. This conventional concept revolves around learning to wait -- wait for delays to pass, wait for situations to "get better", or wait for others to "grow up." It encourages us to remain inactive while feeling somehow "above" or superior to those unideal occurrences. It requires us to passively hope for our lives to somehow "improve" (i.e. more readily fulfill our own personal hopes and expectations) ...
Of course, in reality, all these stresses are self-generated difficulties; they are all chosen deficiencies of perspective. Indeed, whether we burn out (an excess of "drive") or rust away (a deficiency of passion), we are always able to recharge our lives with Purpose by choosing to alter our definition of patience; transforming it from a passive tolerance of Life to an active service for It. To do so, it is necessary to center our visions and hopes around creating, healing or mending for others, as opposed to dreaming, accumulating or using for ourselves...
Perfect Patience" is when you do not wait for either the "better moment" or the "perfect opportunity" to act, but rather choose to notice the opportunities already given to you by engaging them fully in every present moment. You are engaging your True Path patiently when you recognize an opportunity to aid another and then act accordingly without hesitation. It is doing what you already can where you already are with what you already have. It is embodied by actions that are both consciously chosen and that intend to serve others, as opposed to those that are performed "automatically" (inspired by either a routine or emotional reaction) for our own "best interests" ...
In conclusion, it is always possible to become perfectly Patient because it is always possible to seek, find and engage an opportunity to serve others. Every moment in our lives is a chance to actualize a "State of Salvation" by initiating that process (
click here for some practical tips on how to do so). Avoid getting trapped by the desire to immediately actualize your own personal vision of "ideal Service" (a.k.a. one's "most potent" Calling or Life-Mission). Rather, maintain this Vision and use it as a guideline towards behaving as lovingly as possible within the circumstances already present in your current Here&Now. Simply choose to do all the good you see that is already available to Do. Especially remember "the little things", for these "small deeds" comprise the framework of every great Vision. Indeed, what could be more power-full than transcending your ego's whisperings related to your life's "insignificance" by serving anyway! Simply start "in your own backyard" by serving family members and intimate friends. Then gradually allow your efforts to extend into your community. A "hunter" of service watches everything, and as such, everything grants her/him some opportunity to be a powerful Force for Good ...
Remember that it matters not what you choose to do,
and yet it is essential to DO what you choose to do! ...
The choice is completely yours --
May you choose Peace-fully!
It is important to remember that this Virtue is not a "goal" for your attainment, but rather a guideline for your use. You are not required to "be perfectly patient" to attain Peace. And yet, the more perfectly you can effectuate this Patience in your everyday life, the more powerfully you will bring Peace to others - and the more purely you will then experience deep-seated Peace for yourself ...
Some practical How-To's for enhanced Patience:
1. Just DO! ... There are no "small acts of kindness." Every selfless good deed is a powerful force for Universal Harmony. And yet these actions must be engaged to actualize that power ... Thus, choose to begin each day thinking of ways to be of Service* in your community. Pause during the day to search for ways to bring others Joy and/or relieve their burdens. Then, every evening, choose to review your day positively and ask humbly to be of more powerful Service tomorrow. Remember that there is no need for you to search for specific forms of service "best suited" to your particular life or your particular talents. Simply go forth and choose to repeatedly Do whatever Good there is to Do abd let your vocation gently unfold ...
One power-full way to effectuate Service is thinking positively about others when most tempted to analyze or criticize them. Another is to defend others whenever they are being "gossiped." Be help-full when others seem to struggle. Be Kind when others seem saddened. Be Joy-fully unconventional and/or eccentric. Be Happy and spread "good cheer." Clean up garbage and litter in your neighborhood. Leave poems or inspirational quotes in coffee houses or on subways. The list of small, yet significant acts of Compassion are endless. They become a transcendent transformer of the world around you.
Choose to dwell on Wonder and Goodness, and your actions will begin both to effectuate and to attract opportunities to effectuate the same. As long as you consistently Do with Love, it really doesn't matter what is Done. Each of us is assigned the corner of the Universal Garden in which we reside. To effectuate the Virtue of perfect Patience, simply choose to witness the areas of your immediate environment that are in discord, and then seek humbly and gently to bring Harmony thereto ...
*Note that "charity work" is only true service when it enhances the innate Dignity of those served. Monetary donations by definition do not qualify as charity. Pity and sympathy and "saving" others with your own "better ways" are also counterproductive to others. And yet, the question is often posed, "How can I powerfully serve?" The answer is a simple one: Go amongst the downtrodden in your community and give all that you have to give -- even if that "all" is nothing more than a hug and a smile. Go to your enemies and forgive them their trespasses, regardless of whether or not they accept that absolution ...
In addition, there are a few "express lanes" to serving potently -- acts of selfless service that are exceptionally powerful. Some of these are -- being kind to strangers (e.g. making eye-contact, smiling and greeting everyone encountered every day), being kind to the elderly (e.g. visiting retirement homes and listening to your elders), being kind to the ill (e.g. visiting hospitals and sharing space gently with those not often visited by others), being kind to children (e.g. getting involved in a Big-Brother/Big-Sister program).
2. Be positively conscious! ... Patience means making your actions pro-active as opposed to reactionary - positively loving as oposed to negatively fearful. Every conscious being is empowered to lessen the suffering of the world by choosing to add to its Joy; to decrease the darkness of the Cosmos by adding to Its Light. The negative mind may be well intended, and yet it enables sadness. The cautious ego may be well-intended, and yet it entrenches fear. The fighter of evil may also mean well, and yet he/she entrenches that evil and enhances its potency. Those focusing on "eradicating the darkness" do so righteously, and yet make the world a darker place. Remember that it is the positive that transforms the negative. It is light that casts out the darkness. It is goodness that re-minds "evil" of its true, divine nature. So set out each day with the simple desire to spread Joy and positivity. That desire will bear the fruit of Peace wherever you then happen to go ...
3. Just say "Yes!" ... Choose to say "Yes" to every request and every opportunity that has the probability of aiding another.* Do so especially if that request is not in your own "best interest." Do so especially if you are still hurting from something the requester has done to you in the past. Do so especially if you think the motives behind another's request are less than pure. These are your chances to give powerfully by giving anyway!
*When doing so, proof only whether, by performing the requested act, you will potentially harm another being. If it seems not, then simply Do it. Realize as well that many people are asking for assistance with their actions more than their word. Indeed, there is always something to Do and someone to Love in every moment of our lives ...
Generosity vs. Greed
We all intellectually understand the concept of "generosity", and yet untethered altruism is so rarely witnessed in our everyday lives. Maybe this is due to some powerful myths we have been taught about giving. Maybe it is the innate, primitive desire for self-preservation (i.e. "survive and procreate") that has us ignoring most of the literally millions of opportunities with which we are each presented each day to selflessly give to others. Either way, even though I have no specific idea how any of you should be giving, I have experienced the Truth that the more frequently and the more selflessly we give to others, the more Peace we experience in our own lives. And so, without further ado, I give you all a "fresh" set of guidelines to enable you to more power-fully give -- should you so choose ...
A look at the traditional dynamic of "giving" ... Let's begin with a brief evaluation of some of the more conventional definitions of "generosity" that we either have been taught &/or have adopted:
The "lowest" level of giving we regularly see is that of "rationalized taking." This is evidenced by the person who literally steals from another to either give to others (e.g. Robin Hood) or to "effectuate justice" (e.g. taking back what was stolen). Either way, it is clear that these choices have nothing at all to do with perfect Generosity, but are rather thinly veiled acts of thievery. Example: one takes a coat from one person in order to give it to another who is "more in need/more deserving" ...
Next, we have "manipulative giving", where the "giver" extends his/her generosity solely to divert the receiver's attention from the "giver's" own self-centered desires. In essence, this "gift" is not a Gift at all, but rather a tool the "giver" uses to accomplish his/her own objectives. Example: one gives another a coat in order to dissuade the receiver from collecting on a debt ...
The 3rd level of giving involves "provoking reciprocation." Here, the "giver" is generous in order to "bind" the receiver into doing something for him/her in return. Some of the more potent examples are political lobbyists "giving" to politicians in return for subsequent political favors or evangelical preachers encouraging their congregations to "give" their tithings in order to be "good Christians." Example: one gives another a coat in order to "guilt trip" him/her into giving something in return ...
The 4th level of giving is the act of reciprocity itself, where the giver is extending his/her generosity solely because he/she has received a "gift" from another and wishes to quell deep-seated feelings of guilt or "unworthiness." Example: one gives another a coat because he/she has recently received a gift from them ...
The 5th level of giving is "obligatory", as the "giver" is doing so because he or she feels duty-bound to do so. This is seen in many dysfunctional parent-child interactions, where the parent is "generous" with his/her children because it's "the right thing to do" (or sometimes because he/she is "bound by law" -- e.g. child-support payments). Example: one gives another a coat (begrudgingly, after being asked to do so) because "that's what a good person is supposed to do" ...
Finally, "perfect Generosity" is seen where the Giver is doing so solely for the benefit of the receiver. This is best evidenced by those who are humbly dedicating their lives to social causes, those who give anonymously, and/or those who give self-sacrificially. Example: one anonymously leaves his/her own coat next to a sleeping homeless person ...
The "lower" levels of giving ultimately seek benefits for one's self, while the last level seeks solely to benefit others. The first 5 levels of generosity inevitably lead to the entrenchment of both the giver's sense of dis-ease and his/her personal addictions, while the latter leads invariably to an experience of deep-seated Happiness and Contentment. It has been my consistent, personal experience that the more any choice reflects this final, "higher" level, the more potent it becomes and the more Peace it engenders ...
In essence then, "perfect Generosity" is Giving a) without any motivations of personal benefit, b) during times of personal discomfort, and c) for those judged by self &/or others as "least deserving." It always gives more than duty requires, more than hope yearns for and more than expectation obligates. As the gift that is most selfless brings the most Peace to others, perfect Generosity gives anonymously, gives to strangers, &/or gives in another's name. As the giving that is most difficult (i.e. in times of personal discomfort) invariably brings the most Peace to others, perfect Generosity gives when "too busy", when deeply depressed, when in pain, when ill and/or when "too tired" to do so. As those "least deserving" are those who need our caring the most, perfect Generosity is courageously kind to all its "enemies" -- and when an "enemy" is not handy, it is intimately kind to strangers...
In
conclusion, Giving is allWays Right Action, regardless of whether or not the receiver of your gift can fully appreciate it, and certainly regardless of whether or not the timing of that giving is "convenient." As a simple guideline, simply remember the following:
When to Give? Constantly -- with the least "convenient" time being the most potent...
Where to Give? Everywhere -- with the least likely place being the most potent...
What to Give? Anything -- with the most personally cherished item being the most potent...
How to Give? All-Ways -- with the most subtle givings being the most potent...
Give to Whom? Everyone -- with gifts given to our "enemies" being the most potent...
Why Give? For Others -- with compassion being the only truly potent giving intention...
It matters not how much you receive nor how much you possess; simply
Give to others (
click here for some practical tips on how to do so). It matters not if you are "loved enough"; simply
Love others (and thereby free yourself from all dysfunctional "needs")... It matters not if you are sick; simply
Tend others' wounds (and be thereby healed yourself)... Every good deed, every altruistic intention, every loving act given without condition -- they all set in motion a chain of events that expand infinitely
and exponentially over time; positively affecting others, ourselves, and the Universe
forever.
Remember then, it matters not
what you choose to give,
and it is
essential to know
why you give what you choose to give!
The choice is completely yours --
May you choose Peace-fully!
It is important to remember that this Virtue is not a "goal" for your attainment, but rather a guideline for your use. You are not required to "be perfectly giving" to attain Peace. And yet, the more perfectly you can effectuate this Generosity in your everyday life, the more powerfully you will bring Peace to others - and the more purely you will then experience deep-seated Peace for yourself ...
Some practical How-To's for enhanced Generosity:
1. Giving anonymously ... We are rarely taught (and even more rarely shown) the joys of giving to others without expectation. As a consequence, we rarely learn that such pure gifts bring us more happiness than any potential reciprocity ever could. The most effective way to re-member this Truth is to simply go out each day and give to others anonymously. How you do so is essentially irrelevant -- as long as the giving is performed completely anonymously (don't even tell your friends what you're doing!). The most power-full way to do anything meaning-fully is to do it anonymously, do it self-sacrificially (e.g. when "too tired", "too poor" &/or have "more important things to do"), and do it "for free."...
2. Giving "radically" (i.e. randomly) ... Give to others even when no obvious "need" for a gift is evident. Remember that the "magnitude" of a gift and/or the amount of time invested in the giving thereof is essentially irrelevant. Indeed, the power of a particular gift is impossible to materially quantify. $2.00 from a "poor" man is so much more power-full than $20,000.00 from a "wealthy" one. Time spent with a child instead of at an "important" meeting is much more power-full than playing catch with him during half-time of a football game you are watching. It is both the personal worth you imbue in a gift as well as the selfless intention you meld with its giving that are determinant of its potential life-altering effects upon the receiver ...
3. Giving actively ... "Generosity" is not to be confused with "philanthropy." Perfect Generosity is intimate*; something that the mere donation of money cannot engender. Refrain from merely "giving" of things and instead give of your time (e.g. attending appreciatively to the wonders of the moment), your service (e.g. performing physical labors intended to relieve others' burdens), and/or your Self (e.g. listening to others with compassion) ...
*Remember as well that a big part of giving is allowing others to give to you. This includes being receptive to others' cordialities. This includes greeting "strangers" like brothers. This includes speaking with all elderlies and infants as though they are your teachers (After all, they are our true teachers!). This includes conversing with every person you meet as though they are the only person in existence in that moment ...
Gratitude vs. Envy
As we look about us in our everyday lives (or rather, listen around us), it becomes readily apparent that there is a serious lack of gratitude in the day-to-day life of most people. Indeed, at least in my personal experience, others are heard complaining about "what's missing" in or "what's wrong" with their lives far more often than they evince any thankfulness for their blessings. There are a number of reasons for this disparity -- the innate difficulties of modern living, commercials constantly selling the comforts that we "could have" (but do not), and the news-media encouraging us to believe that we live in a world that is "unstable" and "dangerous." These influences stimulate our self-centered egos to construct powerful obstacles to feeling grateful. We are encouraged instead to judge, analyze and criticize all that "isn't right" in our lives. Fear and self-centeredness are lauded as "prudent", and striving to attain what we lack is considered "responsible." Complaining about our "probl ems" becomes commonplace and we start to feel entitled to our blessings -- instead of being thankful for them. We focus on how life "should be", as opposed to appreciating the wonders in the life that already IS ...
"Perfect Gratitude," on the other hand, is facing your life's pains and difficulties while simultaneously choosing to be thank-full for those "obstacles" as the challenges that make life meaning-full. It is the conscious releasing of the feeling of "deserving" anything. It is choosing to humble your ego's self-centered yearnings and focusing instead on the blessings you have already been given. It is discarding the desire for fairness and "justice" -- replacing them with pure thank-fullness for the wonders of all that IS. It is remembering that simply waking up each morning is reason enough to be absolutely grateful (i.e. Great-Full) ...
All conscious beings will continue to regularly experience pain and difficulty throughout the course of their lives. It is the nature of life to be a challenging affair, and it is the nature of the human body to regularly encounter situations that are pain-filled. There is no escape from this reality. And yet, how we choose to respond to those moments -- what we choose to do with those "obstacles", is completely under our control ... Perfect Gratitude takes these instances and, instead of choosing to suffer from them, chooses instead to use them to make life meaning-full. A person can just as readily judge life as "unfair" or "malicious", and yet that judgment is not an objective truth, but a choice. The same person can just as readily see life's difficult moments as blessings; filled with lessons to be learned and challenges that make us stronger when overcome (and that make our subsequent happinesses that much more Joy-full!) ...
It is always possible to be thankful for this amazing gift of life (
click here for some practical tips on how to do so). Indeed, life contains many painful moments, and their lessons will continue to guide us along our respective ways -- sometimes guiding us harshly. And yet, it is completely our choice whether we mire our-selves in self-pity and depression, or appreciate the guidance provided by our lives' painful occurrences. As conscious humans, we can come to the edge of a lake incredibly thirsty, and yet pause to see the sun reflected across its surface like thousands of diamonds. As conscious humans, we can be on the edge of starvation and be offered food, and yet pause and offer that first morsel to our hungry neighbor. As conscious humans, we can fear for our lives as an army approaches, and yet choose to walk calmly towards them uttering prayers of love and forgiveness. As conscious humans, we can be im mersed in the bog of mundane routines, and yet still pause to be amazed by the center of a rose. And as conscious humans, we can be hounded by life's difficulties, and yet choose to be thank-full for life anyway ...
Gratitude actualizes the full potential of every Moment in which you are consciously thankful ... What we already posses becomes so much more than "enough." Energies that were previously diverted into denial and yearning and striving and pining for a different reality are channeled via thankfulness back into our current moments - making us not only content, but incredibly power-full therein. Indeed, perfect Gratitude unlocks reality's full potential. It turns challenges into blessings and despair into empowerment. It transforms every failure into success and allows every unexpected surprise to reflect the Universe's "perfect timing"
External circumstances actually have nothing at all to do with our fundamental sense of happiness. Only our internal choices related to those events determines our level of contentment experienced in any given moment. And remember that very little of the pain we experience comes to us "incidentally" and absolutely none of it comes to us "accidentally." Indeed, most of the difficulty that comes into our lives is the direct result of previous choices we have made (either the commission of self-centered, discordant acts or the omission of selfless, harmonious ones). Only after accepting a complete self-responsibility for our lives (via perfect Gratitude) can we hope to relieve ourselves of the suffering that is inspired by (not caused by) our lives' painful experiences...
This is the challenge of Humanity: that we feel our pain with Gratitude and still strive boldly forth to Serve others anyway ... This is the challenge of Humanity: to Love another so intensely that we let him or her go with Gratitude even while continuing to Love them ... This is the challenge of Humanity: to accept our tragedies with Gratitude and make them meaning-filled by Seeing them as chances to do powerful good anyway ... And these are not decisions reserved for the "noble few." Rather, they are opportunities that every human has in every moment that is painful or difficult. The ability to transcend our frustrations via gratitude-steeped service is what makes us human. It is the way we can choose to be more than mere instinctual "animals" ruled by fears and desires. It is the way to remembering how powerful it can be to be a fully conscious Human Being ...
Remember then, it matters not what you choose to do,
and it is essential how you choose to do what you choose to do!
The choice is completely yours --
May you choose Peace-fully!
It is important to remember that this Virtue is not a "goal" for your attainment, but rather a guideline for your use. You are not required to "be perfectly thankful" to attain Peace. And yet, the more perfectly you can effectuate this Gratitude in your everyday life, the more powerfully you will bring Peace to others - and the more purely you will then experience deep-seated Peace for yourself ...
Some practical How-To's for enhanced Gratitude:
1. Pausing Peace-fully ... To get beyond self-centered emotions and our normal, negative reactions to them, it is necessary to choose to briefly pause whenever these anxieties surface in our lives. With every stimulus encountered, our neo-cortex (the brain center responsible for choosing our responses to events) always "switches on" a quarter of a second after our amygdala (the brain center generally responsible for self-preservative reactions to the same). The former allows us be truly content regardless of our lives' external circumstances, while the latter encourages us to react to those challenges with either hollow desire or paralyzing fear. And yet, as conscious beings, we are each given the opportunity to pause whenever tempted with fear or anger or frustration; to pause and choose a different kind of response. This activity may be difficult, and yet the more we practice it, the easier it becomes. It helps to understand (and regular ly re-member) that all of our suffering comes from our own faulty interpretations of the difficulties we encounter. We always choose our reactions to those "crises", and we can just as readily replace them by choosing to see those situations as opportunities instead of "problems" ...
The easiest way to start this re-programming process is to pause whenever you catch yourself either complaining about or criticizing anyone or anything. Contrary to popular opinion, a negative voicing of your disappointment is not "healthy." There is also no such thing as "sweet sorrow", "constructive fear" or "corrective guilt." Instead of engaging these dysfunctional responses, pause and think of some way -- any way at all -- to be thankful for that person or thing or event instead. If you persist in this practice, perfect Gratitude will become the norm in your life, and you will be regularly and powerfully at Peace ...
2. Actively Appreciating ... Each day, remember to actively espouse your thankfulness for your life. Practice silent expressions of Gratitude on a daily basis. Be grateful that your basic survival needs are being met. Remember that your entire life has actively led you to your present moment and its innate wonders. If your life is in a difficult phase, take a mental step back and remember the "bigger picture" by being consciously thank-full for your free will -- the conscious awareness that allows you to cease being sad or angry or afraid whenever you so choose ...
The easiest way to commence with this re-programming is to begin each day with an emanation of thankfulness. Every new day is a gift of life. Awaken every morning and give thanks for the new day - a chance to start fresh and build not only a life you want to live, but - more importantly - to reconstruct the person you wish to be. Be thanks-filled for each morning's first breath ... Similarly, go to bed each night grateful for the life you were blessed to live that day. If wonder-full things happened, express gratitude for those events. If "terrible" things happened, express even more gratitude for those opportunities -- not to encourage more of them to show up in the future, but rather to take back their power over you and your state of mind. Indeed, without these challenges, your life would be essentially meaningless, and human beings nothing more than the next in a long line of doddering, instinct-ruled beasts.
3. Accepting the IS ... Eliminate worry from your life, and note that by "worry" I do not mean "concern" Concern always encourages you to actively and compassionately do something for another. Worry is a useless mulling over of painful things you cannot change. Concern encourages immediate action while worry is per se future-focused. You have complete control over whether or not you will be psychologically harmed by any event. And anytime you want to, you can stop injuring yourself with your worry by choosing to be grateful instead. Detaching from emotional temptations allows us to experience true Peace -- Honoring the past need not be melancholy, parting from a loved one can be a joyous transition, and indignation over an injustice can be a call to love your enemies. Essentially, negative emotions are only constructive when released and replaced. Choosing radical Gratitude allows us to do just that ...
Compassion vs. Apathy
Before we can discuss compassion, we must somehow come to an understanding of what it is. Dictionaries often define compassion as "love"; "love" is then defined for us as "fondness"; "fondness" is defined as "displayed affection"; and "affection" is finally defined as "a display of love" (?!?!?). Tradition and convention are little help as well, as each person seems to attach a different meaning and/or a different significance to this all-important concept. Some people believe that compassion relates to romance -- others, to friendship. Some people think it exhibits pity and/or sympathy for those in pain -- for others, it is displays of basic politeness ... And yet, despite the difficulties we may experience in defining "compassion", every human being intimately understands how true, deep-seated Compassion feels -- how it feels when it is given, how it feels when it is received, and how it feels when it is witnessed ...
It might be easiest to describe what perfect Compassion is by making it clear what it is not. The true Compassion of which I write has nothing at all to do with possession, control, manipulation, dependence (i.e. needing another), codependence (i.e. melding with/into another) or romance. It does not ever engender jealousy, envy, lust, protectiveness, worry, sympathy, pity or passion. Neither is it related to trust, hope, responsibility, obligation, commitment or duty. We must gently release all of these more traditional characteristics of conventional "love" in order to experience perfect Compassion. Then, by experiencing it, we can come to truly comprehend it ...
Like most of the nine Noble Virtues, different "levels" of compassion manifest themselves in our day-to-day lives -- and an examination of these might prove to be insightful:
The lowest "level" of compassion is actually "dislike" and is characterized by open animosity. This occurs when we see others first as separate from ourselves, then as different from ourselves and finally as dangerous to ourselves. All animosity is born in fear and without fear it cannot remain viable. This fear is the birthplace of all physical and mental addictions ...
The second "level" of compassion is "neutrality" and is characterized by callousness (or apathy). This occurs when we can only see others as "special" or "worthy" when they are either very much like us or can somehow provide us with something. All such "neutrality" inevitably leads to inaction and is born in self-centeredness. It is the birthplace of bigotry and ignorance ...
The third "level" of compassion is abject "desire" and is characterized by manipulation. This occurs when we attempt to attain our own objectives without considering the consequences thereof to others' well-being. All desire inevitably leads to disappointment, and is the birthplace of suffering ...
The fourth "level" of compassion is "romance" and is characterized by neediness and melodrama. This occurs when two or more individuals, instead of sharing their respective Life-Paths, attempt to meld themselves into one being. "Fun" and/or control are used to bulwark the innately weak self-esteems of these "partners." All romance inevitably leads to loneliness, and is the birthplace of emotional addictions ...
The fifth "level" of compassion is "politeness" and is characterized by tact and/or sharing with others out of a sense of obligation. This occurs when one does "what's right" only after his/her personal needs have been satisfied and/or when a sharing is considered "safe" (e.g. monetary donations, tithing at church, giving to close friends, etc.). It also encourages the "giver" to feel entitled to a "return" on his/her "investment." All politeness leads inevitably to superficiality and is the birthplace of a lack of intimacy ...
The sixth "level" of compassion is "true Partnership" and is characterized by unconditional respect and detached, pure caring. This occurs when one gives selflessly simply to ease the burdens of another. It is often performed anonymously and is always performed intimately (via action more than thought and via active service more than mere material giving). All such Partnership leads inevitably to appreciation and gratitude, and is the birthplace of Love ...
The seventh "level" of compassion is "Oneness" and is characterized by Peace-full Joy. It occurs when a person recognizes that there is only one option in every moment, and that option is to serve others selflessly. He/She no longer sees others as separate beings, and acts accordingly. All moments steeped in this Oneness lead inevitably to pure Contentment, and are the birthplaces of what religions refer to as "Salvation", "Paradise" or "the Kingdom of Heaven" (i.e. the complete, objective awareness of our innate, intimate interconnectedness with each other and indeed, the entire Universe) ...
This final/ultimate "level" of caring is actually the only one that accurately reflects what I mean by perfect Compassion. The others are all at least partly dysfunctional -- lacking in perfect Love to one degree or another. Conventional "love" seeks security for the future, while perfect Compassion seeks to accept the moment without condition. Conventional "love" seeks to belong to a particular set of relationships, while perfect Compassion seeks to know a Oneness with the entire Universe. Conventional "love" seeks to be either independent (founded in a fear of intimacy) or dependent (founded in a fear of isolation), while perfect Compassion immerses one into interdependence (where one is distinct from, yet partnered with, everything in one's environment). Conventional "love" seeks to meld with others, while perfect Compassion encourages cooperation with the same. Conventional "love" seeks trust (attached to hopes and expectations), while perfect Compassion rests in faith (detached from any outcom e). Conventional "love" seeks commitment for future "security", while perfect Compassion commits only to the moment (over and over and over again!). Conventional "love" seeks to acquire, while perfect Compassion seeks to give ...
"Perfect Compassion" is impartial and detached; caring for all equally -- both those present and those far removed, regardless of their status or openness to being loved. It is when you are harmed by an "enemy", and yet maintain the composure to pause and care for him/her anyway. We are motivated by that feeling to come to intimately know others' pains, and it simultaneously encourages us to strive to relieve those burdens. Perfect Compassion recognizes the fundamental equality of worth in every being. Thus, it manifests itself gently in all its actions, be that the caress of another's cheek or the lifting of a tea cup. Most importantly, it is the conscious and active caring for others as much as, if not more than, ourselves ...
In conclusion, to know perfect Compassion, we must choose to experience it firsthand. And this experiencing must come in the form of giving that compassion to others, not in receiving it from them (
click here for some practical tips on how to do so). Compassion cannot be sought and found for one's self. Perfect Compassion can only be known in those moments when we yearn to decline an uncomfortable opportunity to serve another, and yet choose to serve them anyway. It is the complete sensation of Oneness that is felt when the ego is purpose-fully set aside in order to lessen another's burdens or add to their Joy ...
Perfect Compassion takes your condemnation and makes it acceptance, takes your arrogance and makes it humility, takes your apathy and makes it service, and takes your greed and makes it generosity ... Compassion enables the true Happiness of others - not only directly via the relieving of their burdens, but also indirectly by inspiring them to do the same for others ... For it is the reliever of burdens who experiences true Peace, not the one relieved thereof ...
We are all wonder-full, innately moral beings who long to do good for others. This is true for those people who happen to be choosing to cause us the most pain. This is also true even for those people who appear to be the most confused (a.k.a. those who seem "evil"). Greet, therefore, everyone you meet in your life with the dignity often reserved for our leaders and loved ones. Everyone, regardless of their "appearance" or "status" -- and regardless of their outward behaviors -- both yearns for and merits pure and power-full Compassion in their lives. This is especially true for those who are acting selfishly, and are therefore seemingly the "least deserving" of that perfect Compassion. Indeed, it is our general lack of empathy for these folks that inspires them to behave as they do!
In essence, we cannot know of Compassion's true majesty if we are only interested in receiving life's hollow joys and pleasures. We must instead choose to experience the Peace that comes from serving a brother as a friend, as opposed to the terror that comes from fighting that brother as an "enemy." It is then that you will understand that only the unhindered giving of Love is the only path to receiving the same ...
Remember then, it matters not what you choose to do,
and yet it is essential to selflessly do what you choose to do!
The choice is completely yours --
May you choose Peace-fully!
It is important to remember that this Virtue is not a "goal" for your attainment, but rather a guideline for your use. You are not required to "be perfectly loving" to attain Peace. And yet, the more perfectly you can effectuate this Compassion in your everyday life, the more powerfully you will bring Peace to others - and the more purely you will then experience deep-seated Peace for yourself ...
Some practical How-To's for enhanced Compassion:
1. Pure empathy ... We cannot know inner Peace without literally re-membering how to be Compassionate to others. And we cannot be Compassionate towards others until we choose to sincerely feel their pain, and this requires the setting aside of your ego's analyses and judgments of others' discomforts. No one's pain can ever be accurately characterized as less intense than your own. Neither can you ever hope to truly comprehend their pain. Rather, choose instead to accept with humility that another�s pain is potentially more intense than any you have personally experienced. Indeed, we cannot love what we analyze or categorize or belittle. We can only have perfect Compassion for that with which we choose to have empathy. And it is this perfect Compassion that makes both others' suffering as well as our own immediately dissipate into the Peace of selflessness ...
2. Being Joy-full ... Compassion is not only the relieving of others' burdens or the mitigation of their suffering. It is also the enhancement of Joy in any given space at any given time. Indeed, it is often more effective to add to the light than to strive against the darkness; to be Joy-full yourself as opposed to merely encouraging others to do the same; to add to another's Happiness as opposed to merely attempting to relieve their pain ...
3. Random Acts of Kindness ... Make your acts of Compassion random and anonymous to enhance their potency. Fill your days with "small", spontaneous acts intended to bring others Joy and/or ease their burdens. Make a list of all the ways your particular culture defines kindness as "normal" or "typical" and then set out each day and radiate your love in other, more radically unconventional ways (this one is actually quite fun!) ...
4. Loving your "enemies" ... Think on those in your life who you find the most "annoying", "mean" or "immoral." Then, choose to show them all perfect Compassion with your considerate actions, caring words &/or positive thoughts. Peace does not require surrounding yourself with "your people." Indeed, your "enlightenment" can only come when you are true to the inclinations of your True Self in those moments when you are most tempted not to. This is why we must choose to care for our "enemies." Without them, our transcendence would be uncomplicated, and therefore weak. Remember that the only way to be care-full of the company you keep is to actively care for the company you don't want!
5. Selfless Service ... Love does not require finding a caretaker. Rather, perfect Compassion encourages you to Become a Caretaker. The following are some "Express Lanes" to empowering this perfect Compassion in your everyday living:
Be Kind to "strangers" you encounter (make eye contact, smile and offer them assistance -- even if they don't ask for it) ... Be Kind to the elderly in your neighborhood (e.g. visit retirement homes and listen attentively to those who reside there) ... Be Kind to the downtrodden (visit and listen to the poor, the homeless, the ill and the imprisoned) in your community ... Be Kind to all children in your life (e.g. volunteer for a Big Brother/Big Sister program, spend Quality-Time with your kids, etc.) ... Be Kind to the animals (e.g. go to your local animal shelter and be Kind to those animals next in line for euthanasia) ...
Honesty vs. Deception
We witness varying degrees of honesty in our day-to-day interactions with others. Between the lowest "level" of truth-telling (the malicious lie) to the pinnacle of perfect Honesty (examined below), there are many different "levels" of honesty displayed when communicate. There are those that tell untruths in order to manipulate others. There are others who tell similar lies because they are afraid they will be rejected if they do otherwise. There are those who tell "white lies" in the hopes of "protecting" others from pain. There are others who lie to provoke others to "grow" (e.g. politicians who lie for "the greater good"). There are those who tell untruths because of their arrogant ignorance (e.g. religious zealots). And there are still others who lie via their sarcastic remarks ...
Of course, in reality there are no different "levels" of Truth. There is only Truth-telling, followed by the afore-mentioned differing degrees of falsehood, deception and manipulation (a.k.a. dishonesty). Perfect Honesty, on the other hand, is absolute and allWays reflected in words and/or actions that are in absolute harmony with one's loving True Self ... "Perfect Honesty" is manifesting the integrity to be true to your True Self -- with your actions even more than your words. It is following through on every utterance as though it were taken under the most sacred of oaths. It is enabled whenever you replace politeness with kindness, and/or meet the temptation to tell "half-truths" with silence and a smile ...
In conclusion, though perfect Honesty is a rarity in conventional living, it is important to actualize this Virtue as often as possible. Employ your speaking, writing and gesturing only as means to give others the gifts of your wisdom, your wonderment and/or your compassion. In essence, to be perfectly Honest, be Love-centered or be silent. Continually remind yourSelf to re-examine and re-evaluate the motives behind your utterances and choose to communicate to understand more than to be understood ... Just as it is better to do nothing than to act selfishly, it is better to be silent than to speak a un-Truth. Be strong and communicate in ways that are consistent with all your current knowledge (
click here for some practical tips on how to do so). Remember to do so gently and with humility. Most importantly, re-member to let your actions reflect those words harmoniously. Though others will often prove unwilling to believe your Truths; honor your True Self by being Truth-full anyway...
Remember then, it matters not what you choose to do,
and yet it is essential to willingly (i.e. honestly) perform whatever you choose to do!
The choice is completely yours --
May you choose Peace-fully!
It is important to remember that this Virtue is not a "goal" for your attainment, but rather a guideline for your use. You are not required to "be perfectly truthful" to attain Peace. And yet, the more perfectly you can effectuate this Honesty in your everyday life, the more powerfully you will bring Peace to others - and the more purely you will then experience deep-seated Peace for yourself ...
Some practical How-To's for enhanced Honesty:
1. Silence & a smile ... "Enlightened" people harbor no secrets. At the same time, they are not mandated to fully disclose their opinions. Indeed, it is often more loving to respond to an inquiry with silence than to utter Honest words that have the "probability" of harming or painfully disconcerting another. Perfect Honesty does not require complete disclosure; merely the complete disclosure of all that one chooses to relay ...
2. Defending the absent (a.k.a. "anti-gossip") ... Be a forthright champion of every human being not present in your life. Do so gently, and do so directly. Refuse to get caught up in criticism, analysis or complaint (especially "gossip", including "gossip" related to politics or the news). Witness and affirm the Truth within others instead. Illuminate the positive in others to allow it to blossom forth. Condemning it "behind its back" will only encourage it to entrench itself and become even more pronounced in the future. In short, participate in supportive, constructive conversations or don't participate in them at all ...
3. Flagrant Honesty ... Sarcasm covers dishonesty with humor even though "more truth be spoken in jest" (Shakespeare). Tact is actually direct vagueness -- a purposeful deception, where the words on the speaker's face are honest while their underlying intentions are not. Avoid speaking in ways intending to manipulate or misconstrue. Dedicate the day to being either completely honest or completely silent ...
4. Walking the Talk ... Most importantly, pause regularly to proof whether or not your current actions are in harmony with your words and your beliefs. Languages can relay information from a particular perspective, and yet they can never hope to convey even a small fraction of the complete reality of our unique experiences of life. It is only our actions that speak accurately to our lives and our beliefs about the same. Indeed, there is never a need to verbally communicate "who you are." Your actions are doing so perfectly in every moment -- so act accordingly!
Humility vs. Pride
In our lives, we are always being pulled in two very different directions. One of these forces tempts us to control our environment and dictate our own destiny in order to maximize our "self-satisfaction," while the opposing inclination constantly "whispers" a deeper Truth to us -- namely, that the way to the very contentment we seek lies not in manipulating our reality, but rather in smoothly harmonizing with it. The more arrogant we tend to be, the more we "hear" the former, ego-based guidance, while the more humbly we choose to listen to life, the more we can access the deeper, selfless Truths that lead us invariably to a life of deep-seated contentment.
These two opposing mentalities tend to manifest themselves in behaviors that appear to be cyclical. On one hand, if we consistently adopt the more common, self-centered outlook on life, our "seeking" tends to conform to some general occurrences: First, regardless of how "wealthy" or comfortable any of us are, everyone eventually feels that their lives "just aren't working." At some point, we each realize that there must be "something more" to life. We then establish specific goals as to how this "happiness" should look or feel (e.g. more emotional glee, more physical pleasure, more material comfort, and more everyday ease are common goals of people following this path). We then begin to search for this particular "Meaning of Life," inevitably finding a teaching or a concept or an activity or a relationship that matches our new vision (such superficialities are, after all, all around us!). We get involved with the afore-mentioned and experience a temporary sense of uplifting, believing that we have finally found "the answer." Inevitably, of course, these new behaviors/relationships cannot bring us the "ultimate contentment" that we originally sought, we become disheartened with our quest, and we either renew our self-centered searching or "give up" and sink into a droning, meaningless existence ...
If, on the other hand, we choose the less common, selflessly humble outlook on living (a choice we can make in any moment), our "Seeking" develops in a quite different manner and leads to quite a different outcome: Initially, very similarly to the self-centered cycle above, we comprehend that our lives are "not working" and realize that there is "something more" to living. Then, however, instead of establishing personal goals as parameters for our search, we choose to set aside all we believe about "the way life is" and "the way life should be." We do not completely abandon our past experiences and ideals, and yet we do set them aside and choose to See life with "fresh eyes," allowing ourselves to accept as possible what was previously believed to be impossible. We are then open to exploring paths/options that we had previously deemed to be either "too dangerous" or "too utopian." Invariably thereafter, we find a teaching or an activity or a relationship that resonates with one of our deeper Truths - most often a Truth that we have long-since abandoned as "impractical" or even "irresponsible." Despite a lack of "concrete evidence" that this new approach will "work", we proceed faith-fully (i.e. humbly) to engage it anyway. We allow ourselves to be happily surprised as this new way leads our lives in a fresh direction. We follow its "guidance" until it ceases to "bear good fruit" (i.e. until it ceases to bring ourselves and/or others Joy &/or Peace), whereupon we simply repeat the process anew. In essence, life becomes a scintillating Journey filled with Meaning - a dance with what IS as opposed to a struggle to create what "should be" ...
"Perfect Humility" is essentially the courage to free yourself from the shackles of "fact", "reality" and "practicality." It is evidenced by a readiness to perceive (i.e. completely accept) your surroundings and then interact with them without the use of your prior preconceptions, expectations or hopes (
click here for some practical tips on how to do so) ...
In conclusion, clarity comes not from mere mental "illuminations", but rather from the act of humbly searching for (and then applying) those wisdoms. The enlightenment rests in the search as opposed to what is sought; in the questioning as opposed to our questions' answers. Such a search is innately active, purpose-full and humble. It is the essence of living - of cherishing the amazing gift that is our conscious existence in fleshly form. Indeed, once "knowledge" is acquired - once "answers" are provided for our questions, seeking inherently ceases. It is the "vagueness" of life that enables our search. It is the uncertainty of life itself that enables us to choose to engage life courageously despite our uncertainty ...
Underneath all appearances, we are all seeking, and we are all seeking essentially the same thing: Peace - our own way to further the harmony of the flow of our Universe. We have all been called to this vision of true Peace (as opposed to mere physiological &/or emotional comfort) - a Harmony that can only be actualized in a state of "Doing Anyway;" -- the State of Being where action is engaged because it is felt to be Right even though there is no "evidence" or convention to support its choice. Indeed, it is this patent uncertainty that enables us to attain deep-seated, lasting Peace when engaging such choices selflessly - it is this actualized faith that enables our search to be both perpetual and, thereby, inevitably Success-full. And this is what it means to be humble. This is leaving the life of judgment and stereo-type and categorization and analysis behind you, and entering the world of truly experiencing Life by witnessing its wonders and/or engaging its opportunities to serve others selflessly. In essence, to be perfectly Humble, simply go forth and do all the "good" there is to do, without worrying about the "reasonability" of your choices ...
Remember then, it matters not what you choose to do,
and yet it is essential to humbly (i.e. courageously) perform whatever you choose to do!
The choice is completely yours --
May you choose Peace-fully!
It is important to remember that this Virtue is not a "goal" for your attainment, but rather a guideline for your use. You are not required to "be perfectly humble" to attain Peace. And yet, the more perfectly you can effectuate this Humility in your everyday life, the more powerfully you will bring Peace to others - and the more purely you will then experience deep-seated Peace for yourself ...
Some practical How-To's for enhanced Humility:
1. "Humilification" Initially, humility is not to be confused with humiliation. It is the ego that identifies the True Self as something infinitesimally small -- an insignificant whispering in one's ear. Of course, this is coming from the ego, whose massive girth (a.k.a. its pride) is your fundamental hindrance to experiencing lasting Happiness. Indeed, there is nothing humiliating at all about perfect Humility. Because Right Actions humbly attempt to relieve others' burdens, they cannot ever lead to embarrassment or shame, regardless of their outcomes. Likewise, perfect Humility is not self-degradation, but rather a realization of how truly power-full we are as small, yet significant facets of the Universe. In addition, perfect Humility has nothing to do with "obedience" or subservience to another. Indeed, perfect Humility replaces subservience to another with a deeper comprehension of the absolute strength of True Self ...
To properly "humilify" your awareness, then, any of the following activities can be engaged: a) engaging any activity in which you aren't particularly graceful or "talented," b) choosing conscious "Humility-Breathing" (taking slow, deep breaths with your chin on your chest and your body in a "state of supplication" - i.e. bowing &/or kneeling), c) regularly and sincerely thanking both the "anonymous" (a.k.a. God) and the "unknown" (a.k.a. inspiration, consciousness, etc.) for everything pleasant that happens to you or is witnessed around you, d) applying new lessons in courageously creative ways (via unconventional, "strange" acts &/or applying intuitive, "irrational" inner guidance) is also a powerful "humilifier," &/or e) employing a "collaborative mentality" -- where you purpose-fully give credit to others or the group for any successes you personally attain ...
2. "Radical Acceptance" (Just say YES!) -- Though they are innately flexible, humble choices are not at all "wishy-washy" or "inconsequent." When another asks you for help, your ego may tempt you to believe that you have "more important things to do", or that the other's request for your assistance is "unworthy" or "counterproductive." And yet, perfect Humility encourages us to choose to assist others anyway. As long as you can honestly have faith that your assistance will neither cause future pain nor entrench current discomfort, perfect Humility encourages us to engage all opportunities to serve others. In addition, perfect Humility prompts you to release all concerns related to an option's probability of "success", its "practicality" of implementation or its "rationality." It chooses instead to simply say "YES!" to every request that has even the remotest possibility of aiding another -- especially if that request is not "rational" &/or not in your own "best interest" ...
3. "Open-Mindedness" -- True learning does not involve mere listening and remembering, but rather Hearing (i.e. appreciating) and re-membering. It has nothing at all to do with following, copying or mimicking others. Instead, true learning is Self-rediscovery. Hearing chooses to acknowledge the information that comes to us as it IS in that moment, as opposed to how it "fits in" to previously learned theories or previously defined categories. As such, to be perfectly Humble, we must choose to continually suspend all convictions and beliefs relative to our current world-view. Note that this does not require us to completely discard those personal beliefs. It merely means that we must re-mind ourselves that we do not "know" anything for certain. Simply said, we must choose to be ready and willing to experience a new way of looking at the situations and events that comprise our lives. We must be willing to adopt another's point of view as easily as our own ...
With this newly opened mind, choose to regularly listen attentively to (i.e. Hear) new information in your surroundings -- seeing the things you have previously overlooked. Remember that true listening is based not on what you "think" or what you "believe" or even what you "hear", but completely upon how you Feel -- how a particular piece of information or a particular perception harmonizes with the sense of Truth residing permanently within you (a.k.a. your conscience) ...
Remember as well that, with regards to perceiving our objective reality, our five "primary senses" are quite weak indeed. Even in our most lucid moments, we can accurately perceive only the minutest fraction of all the evidence making up the objective reality of our mmediate environment. Therefore, perfect Humility encourages us to keep an open mind with regards to new &/or different opinions -- including others' advice and/or criticism. This doesn't mean that the humble believer allWays accepts, agrees with or adheres to those adverse opinions. Rather, perfect Humility simply reminds us to respect those advice-givers and critics by intently listening to them. Instead of "knowing" that you are correct, simply choose to re-mind yourself that, "though I cannot be certain my choice is the best decision, I intend to harmonize with the highest good possible, and yet I am ready and willing to alter my course of action if it becomes clear that this choice is not the most peace-full one." In this way, humble actions become flexible "ahead of time."
4. "Positive Perspective" -- This activity chooses to See all occurrences as fundamentally amusing -- enabling you to persevere through "hardships" with gratitude; knowing that persistence is an end in itself. This mind-set assumes complete responsibility for all your personal "difficulties." The intentional delaying of self-centered gratifications aids this particular awakening as well (e.g. purposefully waiting five minutes to eat when hungry -- better yet, feeding another when you yourself wish to eat). In essence, perfect Humility reminds us that service isn't a burden. Rather, serving others selflessly is a privilege.
Wonderment vs. Familiarity
Even though Wonderment is one of the more readily available Virtues (with opportunities to actualize it being both obvious and ever-present), it is possibly the most difficult for us to access. The "productive" pace of our current society makes it quite challenging to pause long enough to truly appreciate the Beauty that permanently surrounds us. And when we do happen to pause, we have "learned" so much about the make-up of our world that it is all too easy to categorize experiences as "normal." ... We tend to label what has "worked" to ensure our survival (or at least has not led to our death) as "familiar" and we miss out on life's innate amazingness in the process. Thus, we are tempted to repeat what is "known" rather than engage the untested unknown, which our ego assumes to be "dangerous.". We see similarities between past occurrences and current events and assume familiarity in order to "function"; all the while not realizing that there are no repeat occurrences; that there are no completely accurate categories for any entity or any event. Despite this, our sense of the amazingness of life is innate, and can therefore be re-awoken ...
For the infant, everything he/she perceives is truly wondrous. As months pass, the infant becomes a toddler and begins to "comprehend" its sensations more and more. As this happens with ever-increasing frequency and intensity, his/her sense of Wonderment takes a back seat to the "more important" tasks of learning to move, becoming self-sufficient and interacting with others. By the time puberty is attained, his/her sense of Wonder is often entirely replaced by self-centered worries and/or desires. Later, for most adults at least, the receptivity to life's Wonders has all but vanished. And yet, the ability to be amazed remains as power-full and pure as it was at our conception. It must simply be re-discovered. Each experience in life is completely new and fresh, and can be treated as such if we so choose...
"Perfect Wonderment" is when we patiently pause to gaze in amazement upon life's incredible, inherent beauty. Wonder is especially viable when we choose to see the wondrous in the "normal", to find excitement in the "boring" &/or to See the true essence (or "Soul-Self") of anyone previously labeled as "familiar" ...
For most of us, 95% of our thoughts are repeats from "yesterday" (our recent past). Our "knowledgeable" assumptions about reality lead us to gloss over most of the "miracles" in each moment that we have "already seen." Of course, in Truth, every one of our experiences is completely unique; regardless of how familiar it might appear. And even if we have witnessed an occurrence very similar to a current one, is that really just cause to dismiss its innate wondrousness so readily -- merely because it is similar or familiar? Is a rainbow any less Wonder-full just because we've seen one before? Is a sunset any less amazing just because last night's was "prettier"? Is a day spent with a loved one any less phenomenal merely because you might have walked in that same park with her/him every day for the last year? If so, then it is only your innately flawed judgments of comparison & contrast that make it so. Familiarity-based boredom is a choice, and never has anything to do with the objective reality of the moments it judges. Every instant is perfectly Beauty-full. The only question remains: Can we be Human enough to truly appreciate them?
For the conscious human, there appear to be three "levels" of existence, and it is feasible to re-manifest a sense of perfect Wonderment in all three ... Initially, there is the External Realm - all that is perceived to be "outside" of, or apart from, our physical bodies. Here, perfect Wonderment can be accessed via the Peace found in "simple living." Clearing our homes of clutter and cleansing them of disturbing (a.k.a. "negative") energies allows us to feel more at ease with our surroundings -- thereby allowing us to more readily pause and witness the Wonders within them ... Then there is the Internal Realm - all that is perceived to be within, or contained by, our bodies (including our thoughts and perceptions). Here, perfect Wonderment can be experienced via the deep-seated Peace felt during moments of inner calm. Clearing our minds of clutter (with meditation &/or focused listening) and cleansing them of negativity (with laughter &/or acts of selfless kindness) allow us to feel at ease with ourselves -- thereby allowing us to more readily pause and witness our lives' innate amazingness as well ... Finally, there is the Interconnected Realm - where all our perceptions (both external and internal) are unified by conscious choice. This is the kingdom of consciousness, where we can choose a humble awareness of our perfect union with all that composes our Present Moment. This is the kingdom of togetherness, where we can experience moments of pure bliss when all our distinctions and preconceptions melt away. In these moments of courageous kindness and intimacy, we are truly at Peace. "Me" and "they" and "it" become "us" -- and all that is left is perfect Wonderment ...
Every "ordinary", external occurrence can be made "extraordinary" by combining it with an intense, conscious awareness of it, and every "normal" internal perception can become "amazing" by examining it alongside the components of the Cosmos that co-generate it. These "Moments of re-Union" can become an everyday way of living only when you repeatedly re-mind and then re-member them in this way. In this realm, perfect Wonderment is no longer a choice - it becomes an intrinsic characteristic of your daily existence ...
"Perfect Wonderment" is the choice to return to the state of mind that we exuded as infants, and the state of Being that we regularly actualized as children. It is not, of course, a return to the self-centered yearnings of the toddler, nor is it a return to the extreme fears and longings of the adolescent. The "Child" of which I write was constantly enraptured and/or amused by the "normal." That Child was simply happy to be alive. He/She obtained more bliss from sharing than from taking. And it is to this mentality that perfect Wonder calls us ...
Beauty and Wonder are seen whenever a conscious being chooses to See them. Beauty simply IS, and miraculous is the ever-present state of the Cosmos. As such, "ugliness" and "normalcy" are delusions we "see" whenever we are afraid to pause and courageously look for Wonder. Amazement rests not in the particular object(s) we witness, but rather in the intense attention we can choose to give to those same objects. A blade of grass is per se wondrous. Every cloud is a miracle. Every conscious interaction between any two human beings (regardless of the content of these exchanges) is truly a priceless gift. And yet it is attending to these moments as miraculous that allows their innate Wonder to blossom forth. Indeed, we do not see the Universe as it is, but rather as we are within It. If only our life's few "magnanimous" moments are seen as wondrous, then we are only wondrous in the exception as well. And yet, when we choose to See all of Life as the bundle of interconnected miracles that it is, then in every moment we are free to revel in the Joy of the Truth of our own Divine Nature ...
People wait for the "amazing" to be amazed. They want miracles from their prophets, the grandiose from their nature and the most noble from their fellow beings. And yet, while truly amazing, these occurrences are not life's true miracles. Truly perfect Wonderment can only be seen in the everyday - in the smile of a child, in the selflessness of an ant, in the way a tree sways in the wind. If you cannot See the Wonder in these "normal" times, then the more grandiose events will serve as your prison as opposed to your liberator ...
Wonder is not a matter of "maybe" -- Wonder is a choice. Wonder is not the zealous belief that God is everywhere, but rather our humble yet courageous living as though that were the Truth. Indeed, everything in the Universe is a never-ending dance between movement and rest. As such, when in motion, flow with your environment and revel in your motion -- When at rest, sink into the space of that moment and Be One with that space. Realize that, when so chosen, the body is a mobile temple of selfless service, and every place that it accordingly moves or rests is Holy Ground. This realization is the epitome of perfect Wonderment ...
So choose to live in awe of your life (
click here for some practical tips on how to do so). The simplest and smallest things contain the complete essence of the total grandeur of the Universe, the least significant gesture contains the essence of the most power-full Love, and every moment in the flow of time contains the absolute stillness of Eternity ... Wonder is truly everywhere. It is merely a question of just stopping briefly (and continually) and looking -- really Looking. Do so regardless of where you are or what you are doing.
Remember then, it matters not what you focus upon,
and it is essential how you choose to focus upon what you choose to focus upon!
The choice is completely yours --
May you choose Peace-fully!
It is important to remember that this Virtue is not a "goal" for your attainment, but rather a guideline for your use. You are not required to "be perfectly amazed" to attain Peace. And yet, the more perfectly you can effectuate this Wonder in your everyday life, the more powerfully you will bring Peace to others - and the more purely you will then experience deep-seated Peace for yourself ...
Some practical How-To's for enhanced Wonderment: Arriving fully in your present moment is simply a matter of first becoming aware of your ego's tendency to focus in the past or the future, then cleansing your sensations of all preconceptions and hopes, and finally opening up your perceptions to truly appreciating (i.e. reveling in) your Here&Now. While challenging, it only requires willingness and willpower to do so. This ability to sense perfect Wonderment is a free gift that is given to us all in every moment of our lives until we take our dying breath, and it is immensely more pleasurable to experience life where and when and how we actually Are than it is to cover that moment over with hollow "fun", fleeting "entertainment" and/or mythical "facts" ...
Thus, the following activities are provided to enable you to more readily re-experience true Wonderment in your everyday ...
1. Diminishing the comfortable ... Comfort in the familiar blinds our senses. And yet, it is not necessary to live ascetically or in complete denial of life's comforts and pleasures to experience perfect Wonderment. On the other hand, it is necessary to purpose-fully and continually minimize these comforts and categorizations to do so. The more of them you release, the clearer will be your ability to sense your present moment's Wonders. Note that this release is not limited to material possessions or emotional pleasures. We often gain comfort from knowledge, information and beliefs; tools we use to fabricate a sense of predictability and control in our lives. In order to return to a state of amazement, these mental comforts must be consciously released and replaced as well ...
2. The Beginner's Mind - Choosing to be Amazed ... It is important to reallize that our five primary senses are per se fallible. They are indeed amazing gifts, to be sure, and yet they are quite weak -- perceiving only a minute fraction of the stimuli with which the Universe constantly bombards us. Indeed, most of the "facts" we use to formulate our opinions about the happenings in our lives come from past experiences that our brain deems "similar" to our current ones. Thus, the "familiarity" of a particular situation, thing or person reduces our perceptive faculties' abilities to truly Perceive the same!
Clear thought requires first being able to sense an moment's true essence, regardless of how many times we have experienced similar situations or encountered similar beings before. This "beginner's mind" provides us with an intense re-connection between the intuitive "knowing" of our "hearts" and the intellectual analysis of our "heads." How often we all experience life without really being aware of its amazingness! We have experienced our "everyday occurrences" so often that they have been labeled as "normal" or -- even worse -- "safe." We have lost the tendency to appreciate these happenings for the wonderful experiences they truly are. It is the purposeful choice to retrieve and refresh this awareness that we name "beginner's mind" -- It is the choice to see everything encountered anew, as if for the first time ...
Both your feelings of indifference and your sense of boredom are not "sins" as much as they are warnings -- reminding you to awaken to the amazingness of your precious life "before it's too late." To remember how to do so, find something in your life that is beyond your control and choose to cherish it as it happens (e.g. a sunrise, a green traffic light -- anything, really). Or choose to search out and immerse your concentration in something "new." Or review something "old" as though it were new (this is easily attained by finding something "obvious" and slowly explaining it to yourself with ever-deepening detail; continually "breaking down" that object until you are literally forced to stop in utter amazement). Or, alter your routines to more readily See what you have been previously failing to see during the "daily drone" ... In essence, release the life you've been planning to have in order to receive the life that is waiting for you right here, right now. Choose to be surprised at everything that happens to you. Assume that the wondrous always exists and that your mission in living is to re-discover it. Indeed, to become truly aware, you must be able to make the most ordinary act the most reverent; the most mundane of events the most holy; the most humble of locales the most sacred; and the lowliest of men into an embodiment of The Source (a.k.a. God) Itself. Remember that miracles are not co-generated by a wondrous frame of mind, but rather your choice of a wondrous state of mind allows you to finally See what has been in and around you all along. In essence, miracles aren't miracles, but tests of perception and awareness ... Seek and find the sacred in the ordinary. If you merely "pay attention" without living in the object of that attention, drowsiness ensues and your pure awareness is obscured. Instead, choose to truly attend to your current space. Do so long enough to See the Wonders therein ...
3. Doing with Purpose ... Be amazed by Seeing the potential power in every act and routine. This is accomplished by first consciously performing those acts, and then by making them sacred -- by choosing to view them as the most important acts in your existence. Make every eaten morsel a sacrament. Turn every sip of water into a draught from an desert oasis. With this mentality, every shower or bath becomes a baptism and every act of service is performed as if for God Itself. Walk stairs slowly. Taste your food completely. Clean your home smoothly and polish it to "newness." Let all your actions sink gently into the level of "moving while watching." Be truly aware of What you are Doing (and what you are choosing not to do as well). As often as possible, perform every activity's initial movements as smoothly, as slowly, as accurately and thereby as consciously as possible. In essence, either pay complete attention to an action or don't engage it at all ...
In this way, every movement becomes the active worship of your life and every choice becomes Life itself. There is nowhere to go, no method to employ, no master from which to learn. Life IS -- and you are simply acting accordingly ... Be Care-full in every thing - with the smallest and least significant of acts receiving the most intense and complete attention. This ability - the ability to make the mundane into the Divine - is the true magnificence of the gift of consciousness with which you have been blessed. All that remains is to truly appreciate this gift by setting it in motion ... In this way, your obligations become your desires. What "should be" is discarded in favor of what already IS. What you choose to do may remain the same, and yet the all-important intentions behind those choices shift completely. You act because you want to serve others. And when you do act, you attend to what you are Doing. Thus, it is possible to live more completely in harmony with the greater flow of Life -- and you will be immediately immersed in the perfect Wonderment of that priceless gift ...
4. Simple pleasures - Living Joy-fully ... Joy is a useful tool for remembering Wonderment. Indeed, there are no age limitations to reveling in life by "having fun." Jump in leaf-piles and splash in puddles. Play on playgrounds. Laugh whole-heartedly (for "no reason", if need be). Climb trees and build "forts" with pillows. Ask silly questions and make up spontaneous songs. Blow bubbles and swing on swing sets. Cuddle -- with anything! Speak kindly to animals and trees. Fly kites and watch clouds and stare at starry skies. Catch a sunrise and a sunset on the same day. Walk in the woods and sit calmly in sunbeams ...
In essence, be "in the zone", "in love" and "in the moment" -- where "in" refers to your complete immersion into your environment, and do so as though it were both the first and last moment of your life.
5. Attending to the Here&Now ... The Here&Now life has by definition no plans or goals; It simply IS and appreciates whatever IS. Future-vision leads to the development of expectations, which inevitably dampen our experience of the present moment and all that it contains. If something "good" is felt to be approaching, the expectation of that arrival eliminates the extra bliss we experience when surprised by that "good fortune." On the other hand, if something unpleasant or pain-full is "on the horizon", our expectation thereof in the form of worry or anxiety only brings that "evil's" potential harm to a more powerful fruition. Our pain is doubled as we needlessly suffer an "evil's" arrival before it actually arrives! To rectify this flawed approach to living, choose instead to regularly pause and feel your current moment. Let it sink into your Awareness. Release focusing on nostalgia and/or regret. Release expectations and/or worries as well. Release all daydreaming, fantasizing and reminiscing to maintain a more sound focus on your Here&Now.*
In short, choose to be deeply aware of Where --- You --- Are!
*You can help yourself re-focus in the Now by "minding the gaps": those "in-between", liminal moments that fill our lives -- the moment between breathing in and breathing out (and breathing in again); that fuzzy "hole" in your vision between focusing on two different objects or points in space; the transition from one sense to another (from sight to smell to touch, etc.); the silence between every note of music. Focus there and you will automatically Be here. Ask "Where Am I?" regularly at random moments throughout each day ... Think deeply about your answer each time ...
Faithfulness vs. Doubt
In our present society, a "good citizen" adheres to conventional prescriptions of "morality" -- laws, regulations and behaviors which are always in some way fear-based (focused on "fitting in" or "acting appropriately"). As such, these influences lead us to make self-centered choices that invariably cause pain for ourselves and others. Many of us then turn to hoping and praying ("faithfully") that some external force (be it God or the government or luck) will come and rectify those difficult situations for us. This kind of "faith" encourages us to wait to be "rescued"; to abdicate all responsibility for our own happiness; and to submit to a belief system espousing that our regular exposure to "tragedies" is "just the way life is" ...
Awakened Human Beings, on the other hand, use their own intuitive bellwethers of "right" and "wrong" to measure the correctness of their actions. They also accept full responsibility for all that happens with them in their lives. For them to do so consistently, they Faith-fully follow the infallible (albeit quite subtle) guidance of their conscience -- an internal moral compass that always focuses on others' well-being ahead of any personal "gains." To emulate these brave beings (and attain the same peace with which their courageous actions bless them), we must also choose to act with a resolute belief that our decisions will bring others peace; a complete faith in the "rightness" of our good intentions -- even though we cannot ever be certain that those decisions will manifest the benefits for others that we desire. We simply assume that whatever happens in our lives is "right", and can therefore be used to enhance the overall Harmony (a.k.a. "balance" or "peace") of the Universe. In this way, perfect Faith encourages us to witness (and indeed, be inspired by) the "Golden Core of Goodness" residing within all of the conscious beings we encounter (regardless of what these beings do or don't Do) as well as within all the situations that happen "to us" (regardless of whether these happenings bring us pain or pleasure). It is this mentality that allows us to more readily accept, and therefore harmonize with, each and every moment of our lives. It is a primary human challenge to See life as such, and it is our actualization of perfect Faith that enables us to fulfill that Calling ...
"Perfect Faithfulness" is exhibited when you are uncertain as to the effectiveness or "safety" of a particular act of kindness, and yet you choose to be kind anyway. It is your choice to refuse to draw any lines of preconception around what is "possible" in your life and what is not. It is listening with your ears while simultaneously Hearing with your Heart. It is perceiving with your eyes while simultaneously Seeing with your Soul. Perfect Faith is the choice every conscious being has (in every moment anew) to set aside the primitive whims of his/her ego and the self-centered urges of its mind-body. It is the ever-present opportunity to actualize the deeper selflessness resting calmly within us all. It is knowing that the current moment is potentially your last in this lifetime and yet "planting your garden" anyway...
In conclusion, perfect Faith is available only in the present moment, and it is available in every present moment (
click here for some practical tips on how to do so). It is all-accepting, and therefore has no enemies. It is the courage to take hold of the kind hand that our True Self extends through the mists of the ego's fears. Perfect Faith enables us to take that hand and follow it, though we cannot see for certain where its path leads. Indeed, our redemption lies not in struggling through our ego's shadows, but rather in simply taking that all-Loving hand and allowing ourselves to be led through them. If you allow your ego to aim your life's arrows, you might indeed hit the target you desire to hit. And yet, perfect Faith allows you to hit the more potent target that the ego cannot even see. The ego worries about shooting "accurately", and therefore frequently misses, while Faith simply lets "Right Action" fly and paints the target around the arrow wherever it lands.
Remember then, it matters not what you choose to do,
and it is essential to courageously leap into whatever you choose to do!
The choice is completely yours --
May you choose Peace-fully!
It is important to remember that this Virtue is not a "goal" for your attainment, but rather a guideline for your use. You are not required to "be perfectly faithful" to attain Peace. And yet, the more perfectly you can effectuate this Faith in your everyday life, the more powerfully you will bring Peace to others - and the more purely you will then experience deep-seated Peace for yourself ...
Some practical How-To's for enhanced Faith: As perfect Faith is primarily based in a mental choice of courage over fear, there aren't any activities that per se generate It for everyone. Nevertheless, the following passages will help each of you to rediscover which choices in your lives will help your own perfect Faith to re-awaken ...
1. Radical Selflessness ... Initially, perfect Faith is experienced only when your actions are Faith-full. Faith, like all the Noble Virtues, is literally non-existent without its actualization. Faith is not something you have -- Faith is something you Do. It is not enough to engage actions that seem to require Faith, but in reality are selfishly motivated and merely "risky" or "brave." Faith in action must manifest itself in Harmony with the Universal base-frequency of Love. And Love manifested must take the form of selfless service for others. And it is this selfless service that always co-generates sensations of Oneness and inner Peace. Faith is not only the selfless intention to serve the Universe's "Highest Good", but is also embodied in every good deed that manifests that intention ...
2. Facing your Fears ... Faith exists especially in those moments when we engage a difficult or "scary" choice (as long as that choice is a selfless one), despite not being "ready" to Do so. Indeed, it is impossible to ever be "ready" to walk your Path while inhabiting a human body that is constantly worrying about its own survival. Your mind's "machine" will never venture forth towards its Soul's true calling unless assured of a "safe arrival" - a safe arrival that cannot ever be assured. Thus, if solely left up to your rational and self-serving mind-body, you would never use that "machine" to make any leap that would be meaning-full. Thus, for such courageous actions to be taken, perfect Faith is required -- a perfect Faith that is not given to you at birth, but is rather chosen by you from moment-to-moment ...
3. Engaging the "small steps" ... It is also important to note that perfect Faith does not require you to actualize a traditionally "magnanimous" path or engage a particularly "amazing" deed. For perfect Faith to be actualized, it is enough to take one small yet completely Faith-full step. Of course, the more difficult your step, the more clearly your Faith will be Felt, and the powerful that act/step will become. And yet, any step will do -- as long as it is actively performed (and not merely contemplated or professed) despite your prevalent doubts as to its effectiveness, its appropriateness or its feasability ...
4. "Conscious spontaneity" ... Perfect Faith is also known during the times whe we choose to embrace life at "random" moments, in unusual and/or unfamiliar ways. Any purposeful act of spontaneity and/or unconventionality requires some degree of courage, and it is that courage that allows your perfect Faith to be re-born as well ...
5. Being "Pre-Grateful" ... Finally, perfect Faith is generated any time you chose to exhibit an unconditional Gratitude before the reception of one of life's many gifts. This "pre-thank-fullness" is especially effective in those moments when you are in pain, confused and/or afraid. Faith is most powerful in acts of selfless, self-sacrificial service (e.g. being kind to an "enemy", giving your meal to another when hungry, etc.). In short, choose to engage your life's "dark times" with radical, selfless kindness and perfect Faith is certain to re-awaken within you. In these moments, even the faintest glimmer of actualized belief in the Universal Order (i.e. the "Flow towards Highest Good") is enough to transform any tragedy into an Self-Awakening.
This empty space at the very center of the diagram represents the singularity some call the Soul. It is the source of both your ability to experience your interconnected
Oneness with God-Source (i.e. the entire Universe), as well as your persistent yearning to actualize the same. It is "chi"; the energies that feed and embody the rhythmic
ebb and flow of our constantly dynamic Cosmos. And it is "God within"; the source of all co-creative power that encourages a re-membering that you are an agent of the Whole.
For Buddhists, it is the essence behind "Right Mindfulness." For Christians, it is "the Holy Spirit." And for all of us, it is the perfect harmony found in the frequency
we call "Love."
This area represent the home of your deeper Awareness -- the foundation of your True Self. It is the inspirational force present within every conscious being that drives
us all to harmonize with what already is. It constantly enCourages us to live meaning-fully, and is the birthplace of all our feelings of amazement, peace, compassion and
joy (manifested as the 9 Noble Virtues of Level 3). For Buddhists, it is the motivation underlying "Right Diligence." For Christians, it is the essence of every "Child of
God"; the very embodiment of the "I Am Presence" (see Exodus 3:14). And for us all, it is the "Observer Within," the birthplace of our true personality, and the calling
behind every act of selfless kindness.
This is the hub wherein resides unconditional Love; the frequency of perfect selflessness which is composed of the 9 Noble Virtues (represented by the 9 colored balls around
this region's perimeter). The interrelatedness of these values is reflected in the lines of force that interconnect them all; lines that seemingly generate a 3D image on the
2D page - an image that is based on the tetra-decahedron; a geometry essential to the construction of the Universe. The conscience is solely concerned with our role in
spreading Peace and Joy into all our environment; thereby bringing us into Harmony therewith. For Buddhists, it grounds us in "Right Perspective." For Christians, it is
Jesus' "Advocate within." And for us all, it the constant moral guidance (the conscience) that allows us to comprehend the difference between choices that are Right (i.e.
selfless) and those that are Wrong (i.e. self-centered).
*Note: The 9-pointed star seen between levels 3 and 4 represents the choice available to us in every moment to either act selflessly or react
self-centeredly. When we choose caringly, we beacon a harmonious frequency through our surroundings into the Cosmos. Conversely, when we choose selfishly, we send a
discordant frequency thereto. Both of these types of choices attract similarly focused entities and situations back into our lives. In those instants when we choose to
harmonize our actions with the selfless inclinations of the Universe, this dynamic becomes the source of our ability to co-create a more Peace-full life.
This is the home of your convictions, prejudices, fears and desires. In essence, every past pain from which you have suffered leaves behind a residual memory encouraging you
to run from anything similar. Likewise, every selfish pleasure experienced leaves behind a similar residue which encourages you to seek more of the same (often at others'
expense). This "fog of self-centeredness" keeps you from re-actualizing the inner peace that comes from actualizing the caring alternatives sought by your conscience.
The more self-centeredly you behave, the thicker this "fog" becomes, and the more you suffer when confronted by life's painful challenges. For Buddhists, this level, when
harmonized with the selfless inclinations of level 3, manifests itself in "Right Thought." For Christians, it is both the source of doubt and the emPowerer of all acts of
faith. And for us all, it contains the behavior patterns and impulses (our "identity") that tempt us to stray onto the paths of selfishness and codependence.
*Note: The 9-pointed star seen between levels 3 and 4 represents the choice available to us in every moment to either act selflessly or react
self-centeredly. When we choose caringly, we beacon a harmonious frequency through our surroundings into the Cosmos. Conversely, when we choose selfishly, we send a
discordant frequency thereto. Both of these types of choices attract similarly focused entities and situations back into our lives. In those instants when we choose to
harmonize our actions with the selfless inclinations of the Universe, this dynamic becomes the source of our ability to co-create a more Peace-full life.
This area reflects your sense of individual identity. It is the "Fulcrum of Choice" where the five primary senses process information and present the options available to
us. Here is where all your decisions are born. Whether you choose caringly or selfishly, your individual character shifts according to those choices. Every self-centered
choice adds more obscuring "tarnish" to your ego-mind, making your fears and sadness more intense, and thereby keeping you from experiencing deep-seated contentment. On the
other hand, every selflessly caring act removes a similar portion of that "sludge", allowing you to re-member your intimate Oneness with both your surroundings and your
Soul. This experience of Interconnection is the source of all feelings of joy and Inner Peace. For Buddhists, this dynamic embodies what is known as "Right Manifestation."
For Christians, it is the home of "the Son of Man" -- who must choose to either "fall" into the "sin" of self-centeredness or "arise" and go forth as an agent of loving
kindness. And for us all, it is the birthplace of our beliefs and convictions; representing the constant choice we have to either cling to selfish hopes or let go of the
same and simply do the good there is to be done.
This layer of the logo represents the physical body, the fleshly "machine" that enables you to actualize either the self-centered desires of your ego-mind or the selfless
inclinations of your conscience. For Buddhists, it is the enabler of all "Right Action." For Christians, it is "the Temple" -- the agent through which our "works" enliven
our faith in all that is Right. And for us all, it is the fleshly container that carries our Soul through this lifetime, and that enables its selfless inclinations to be
fulfilled.
This region illustrates both how we constantly communicate with our surroundings (represented by the inner, smooth line of force containing the darkened dots) as well as
how our surroundings constantly interact with us (represented by the outer, smooth line of force containing the open dots). Everything in the material realm is essentially
composed of the same essence - that is, differing frequencies of condensed light. As such, every material person or thing interacts with every other person or thing on an
integral, energetic level -- a "dance" that can be more readily witnessed during your moments of "coincidence" or "synchronicity." For Buddhists, this communique is
perceived clearly in all moments of "Right Livelihood." For Christians, it is referred to as "Grace" or "Divine Guidance." And for us all, it is the "karmic" interplay
of action-and-consequence that continually encourages us to make choices that are harmonious for the entire Cosmos, as opposed to merely those which further our own sense
of well-being.
This circuit represents everything in our immediate surroundings; everything we perceive to be "separate" from ourselves. It is represented by a light "mist" in the
diagram; the "fog of familiarity" that keeps our awareness focused on our immediate environment instead of perceiving life from a grander, more Universal perspective.
For Buddhists, it is the enabler of "Right Concentration." For Christians, it is referenced in all Biblical verses that speak to the "earth" or things "earthly." And
for us all, it is the call to experience the interconnected Oneness that entwines our every moment; a Oneness whose various parts are always evolving. It is the summons
to see the wondrous in the "normal" and the amazing in the "familiar" -- and then act accordingly.
Represented as the empty area around the logo itself, this layer reflects all portions of our objective reality "beyond" the immediate perceptions of our primary senses.
It includes the boundlessness of space itself, and encompasses the Oneness of the entire Universe (including levels 1-8). For Buddhists, it represents "Nirvana." For
Christians, it is mentioned in every Biblical verse related to "the Father." And for us all, it is comprised of the forces of Light and Consciousness that make reality
the perfect playground for the potential re-awakening of Humankind.
Condemnation exists in those moments when the Noble Virtue of Acceptance is not chosen. And the dis-ease that we experience then is in direct proportion to how judgmental we choose to be in any particular moment. Mild discomfort comes to all who analyze their lives, while greater degrees of pain come to those of us who choose to criticize or even condemn another, instead of Accepting them as they are.
Attachment exists in those moments when the Noble Virtue of Patience is not chosen. And the dis-ease that we experience then is in direct proportion to how demanding we choose to be in any particular moment. Mild discomfort comes to all who allow themselves to become frustrated by what occurs, while greater degrees of pain come to those of us who choose to attempt to "push the river" and "make life better", instead of Patiently engaging Life as it already is.
Greed exists in those moments when the Noble Virtue of Generosity is not chosen. And the dis-ease that we experience then is in direct proportion to how self-centered we choose to be in any particular moment. Mild discomfort comes to all live cautiously (out of concern for personal well-being), while greater degrees of pain come to those of us who choose to manipulate or "manifest" wealth for our own benefit, instead of Generously giving back to the Universe that has already so abundantly given to us.
Envy exists in those moments when the Noble Virtue of Gratitude is not chosen. And the dis-ease that we experience then is direct proportion to how desirous we choose to be in any particular moment. Mild discomfort comes to all who wish for what we do not already possess, while greater degrees of pain come to those of us who choose to actively seek to acquire the same, instead of Gratefully appreciating what we already have.
Apathy exists in those moments when the Noble Virtue of Compassion is not chosen. And the dis-ease that we experience then is in direct proportion to how indifferent we choose to be in any particular moment. Mild discomfort comes to all who simply turn away from opportunities to be caring, while greater degrees of pain come to those of us who choose to actually hate or despise another, instead of Compassionately showering them with the Kindness they so richly deserve.
Deception exists in those moments when the Noble Virtue of Honesty is not chosen. And the dis-ease that we experience then is in direct proportion to how manipulative we choose to be in any particular moment. Mild discomfort comes to all who attempt to persuade others of their "correctness", while greater degrees of pain come to those of us who choose to actually lie and deceive them, instead of Honestly exhibiting our True Selves (or remaining silent if the same would cause undue pain).
Pride exists in those moments when the Noble Virtue of Humility is not chosen. And the dis-ease that we experience then is in direct proportion to how arrogant we choose to be in any particular moment. Mild discomfort comes to all who judge any situation or person as "normal", while greater degrees of pain come to those of us who attempt to "convert" others to our own point of view, instead of Humbly relaying our Truths (with our deeds more than our words) without any care as to whether our own Truths are heard accurately by others or not.
Familiarity exists in those moments when the Noble Virtue of Wonderment is not chosen. And the dis-ease that we experience then is in direct proportion to how categorical we choose to be in any particular moment. Mild discomfort comes to all who turn away from the constant miracle that is Life in "boredom", while greater degrees of pain come to those of us who choose to actually refuse to see the magnanimous Beauty that regularly presents itself to us, instead of standing in Wonderment and awe over the same.
Doubt exists in those moments when the Noble Virtue of Faith is not chosen. And the dis-ease that we experience then is in direct proportion to how certain we choose to be in any particular moment. Mild discomfort comes to all who believe that they are "absolutely right", while greater degrees of pain come to those of us who choose to wait for "more evidence" or "a better time" to act courageously, instead of Faithfully doing what good there is to be done, and having Faith that the overarching flow of the Universe will complement those choices.